Post # 1
so mr.ST and I will be getting married in my parent’s church. but the thing is, our church is bit unique in that it’s got a no-shoes policy.
the reason being, my parents run a “24-hour prayer center” and basically what that means is our church literally open 24 hours/day all year around (also, it is a non-denominational Christian church/prayer center, welcome anyone and everyone). we also have a small house next to church that we use as ‘dormitry’ for those who traveled from far (some from out of country, some from across US) to pray.
when my parents got the church, to carry out their vision – to make it a place where people can come, pray for days, and especially to accommodate people with illness, they put hospital grade antimicrobial, antibacterial, rubbery (it’s cushiony) tiles as floor. anyway that special tile is REALLY expensive. I forget the exact price but omg it was expensive. anyway, so shoes (especially high heels) on the surface will be detrimental.
not only that, people sleep over at our church. some are sick – like terminal cancer patients, and we’ve even had a person bring in their hospital bed AND her nurse into the church and stayed there for 2 weeks before she passed away.. my parents were looking after her day and night while she was there. either way, at any given night we might have 5-10 people praying overnight and sleeping on the floor. so, even though we do clean it everyday religiously, the thought of walking around in shoes where people might put their face on…seems wrong to me.
SO i said to mr. ST that we’d need to tell people to take off their shoes when they come in. I said maybe we can give slippers as favors so they can wear them inside the church. I don’t think it would be a big deal if I explain that is the rule at our church (just as in some churches in europe won’t let you in unless your shoulders are covered, or some temples that won’t let you in unless you took off your shoes), but Mr.ST feels squeamish about it — well, actually he DOESNT want to ask people to take off their shoes.
what do you BEEs think?
Post # 3
I’m going to be honest here. I hate taking off my shoes and rarely do so, especially in a strange place. If I was a wedding guest and presumably wearing nice or expensive shoes and was told to take them off, I’d be really uncomfortable. So I’d want to know in advance on the invitation I guess.
Post # 4
also, just to add to info, i’m Korean, he’s Chinese. most of our wedding invitees will be asian. and in asian household it’s not uncommon to take off shoes indoors…though i guess taking shoes off in church is pretty unique.
and normally at church, people don’t seem to mind taking off shoes, but i guess it’s not a wedding. 🙁
Post # 5
although im confused on why people would choose such expensive tiles for flooring if they dont want people to walk on it IF i was a guest i would be surprised but would think ok, lets get with the program, its not a big deal and take them off but i know people like my Mother-In-Law would be confused (shes older, would be wearing stockings)
but… what happens with the shoes? am i suppose to carry them? leave them somewhere as im not a fan of leaving my very expensive shoes in a pile so they can get lost
is the floor slippery? can the men walk in their socks?
edit: oh, can you rent carpeting for the aisles for the wedding??
Post # 6
@eloping: thanks for the reply! the tiles are medical grade so people with illness can stay without worry of infection. and no it’s rubbery and not slippery so you can walk around with stockings and socks without falling over. we just don’t want people walking in with their shoes w/ whatever dirt, germs, mud, etc. and bring it inside.
we have shoe cabinets for everyone’s shoes, but if we give slippers as favors it would come in a pouch, people can put their own shoes into it and keep it with them if they prefer it that way.
Post # 7
ah! that makes sense, i was thinking of some mosaic tile made by virgins on the full moon of february 🙂
i think slippers would be a great touch – or people like me would happily bring my own socks if im told beforehand
what about slippers in a small shoe bag (you can sew this up very easily) so people can keep their shoes with them if they wanted to???
Post # 8
@eloping: oh yes 😀 that’s what I meant by the pouches. I’m hoping to be able to find slippers that come with its own shoe bag, but great idea of making my own ! thank you 🙂