(Closed) Taking the FOCCUS tomorrow…feeling nervous!

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t worry about the test!   The FOCCUS really just helps the deacon and you to see what issues you may need to talk about most before you get married.  As long as you have talked through most issues like family, children, religion, communication, etc then that will show in your FOCCUS results.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

they’re not going to go thru with it you guys question by question. when we did ours he would just skim each page and talk about different things that may have caught his attention (not necessarily in a bad way). from my experience, it seemed as tho they just wanted to make sure we were on the same page about everything. the questions are separated into categories and they looked at how well our answers matched up in each one. we were told that if there was something that was below 50% compatibility for a category, that would be a concern for them. if there seemed to be a lot of low scores, they would want us to work on those issues and maybe take the test again. we didn’t need to do that; our scores were all high enough that he wasn’t concerned. so yeah, no big deal. i actually thought it was actually really cool 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

haha, that’s funny. i’m glad it wasn’t a negative experience for you guys.

it seems like most people take their tests at their church, but they e-mailed our tests to us and we took them at our homes. it was cool because we were able to stop and resume the test at another time if we needed to. my fiance knocked his out in one sitting. i split mine up into 2 nights because i had a headache and couldn’t focus (no pun intended, lol). and actually, we totally could have easily cheated a little bit if we really wanted to. we could have skyped (we’re in a long distance relationship) while taking the test to make sure our answers matched up, but we didn’t. like you said, a lot of it was stuff that engaged couples should already have talked about, so neither of us was worried about choosing a “wrong” answer. 

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