(Closed) Taking the pressure off or presumptuous…?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I think I’d wait and see what happens. I definitely wouldn’t contact her before you KNOW that you aren’t being invited. I know that if I were in her situation, I would never exclude one of my friends just because a Bridesmaid or Best Man didn’t like them. If it turns out that you aren’t invited, I would wait until after the wedding and contact her to see if you could take them out to dinner or something. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Wait and see.  It might put her in even more an awkward position to be reminded of the situation.  i’ve actually been in the same situation.  BM at my friends wedding was my ex bestie but I was still invited and the wedding was fun!  I’m sure that she will still invite you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I vote for waiting too.  She may not even have considered not inviting you, but if you bring it up she may begin to think that you don’t want to be invited, and are trying to be subtle or something.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Another vote for wait & see. Especially if you did it by email, no matter how carefully you worded it, she could easily interpret it as you not wanting to go to her wedding which would damage another friendship. I hope you’re invited (and I think I’d be surprised if you weren’t – you are close enough friends that she was in your weddnig), but if not offering to take her and her new husband out for a celebratory dinner would be a lovely gesture 🙂

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