I’m in a similar situation as you – trying for 2 years with 2 miscarraiges, a few TI cycles with the RE and 6 IUI’s. I can’t say what will be right for you, but here is my experience in time off:
Last June, after our initial testing with the RE, I was halfway through my first medicated cycle and found out I was no longer immune to chicken pox. I had to get the immunization again, which caused a 30 day (minimum) unplanned break from TTC as it is dangerous to expose a pregnancy to that live vaccine. I had a VERY difficult time and hated every moment of that break.
This January, after our 5th failed IUI, we decided to take a month off so that we could go on a ski trip with friends without having to worry about meds, monitoring, etc. The break was nice, since we could spend time (carefree) on a mini vacation, but it was hard as I was around a friend’s 10 month old son. I felt like we were wasting time and I was anxious to start our last IUI. During this time, we also met with our RE for another consult and were deciding what the right path was for our journey (IVF or donor eggs).
Currently, we are on another “break” of sorts. I’m not temping, OPK, timing intercourse, but we aren’t preventing either. After the 6th IUI failed in February, we decided to take time off to save money and start IVF in July. I feel the absolute best I have so far in our journey. My stress is gone, sex is fun, and I’m feeling really good about our attempt to try IVF (I have DOR, which gives us a 20-30% chance of even getting an embryo during our IVF cycle). I think because we have a goal that we can work towards, I’m distracted. I’ve focused my energy on eating better, cutting out alcohol, and saving money so that we aren’t using our savings. I have picked up an extra job (after quitting a full time one in January to work from home part time) and we have surpassed our goal to pay for IVF+meds, and I’ve even been able to save for 8 weeks of acupuncture, massages for both of us prior to the start and some other “fun” things to do to help relax. Of course, I think about how I’m not getting any younger and I might not have any eggs, but I feel like I’m in such a better place than if we were to jump right from a failed cycle to IVF. My mind is clear, I don’t cry nearly as often (and if I do, I accept it and let myself feel those feelings), and I’m just so much more emotionally healthy. We were able to schedule IVF to happen and take the entire two weeks off from work so we aren’t worrying about when egg retrieval and monitoring will be. I think, for me, this will make the stress of IVF much less and hopefully help with better results!
Anyway, I’m so sorry you find yourself in a similar situation. I can’t tell you what to do, because every situation is different. My only advice is that if you do decide to take a break, have something to focus on. It will help you from feeling guilt or sadness over the “lost” months and you can channel your energy towards something else for a bit of time. Hopefully when you are ready, you will know it. Sending you lots of hugs and good luck with whatever decision you make. Feel free to PM me if you need 🙂