- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Sounds like a wonderful reception!!!
Sounds like a wonderful reception!!!
A couple questions:
1. Are gaps the norm in your area for weddings?
2. What happened to all the extra food? Did you get to take it? In my state it’s the law that any unbeaten food from a private party like a wedding cannot leave the restaurant. Wondering if that was the same for you.
The OP had 72 seats and about 100 guests. That’s a fine number of seats. And if people are dying to sit down they could sit out in the foyer, on the stairs, or could even go down to the bar area.
I know St. Louis well including the Tap Room.
OP, looks like you married either at MoBot Spink Pavillion or the Palm House at Tower Grove, the latter being my favorite place in all St. Louis for weddings.
about the food- technically I think we weren’t allowed to take it, but I saw several guests leave with take out boxes provided by our staff, and it was offered to us (we just didn’t have anywhere good to put it)
Sounds like things went well for you and you have me even more excited now!
Thank you again for posting this ^_^
You know how brides often say that the day felt so fast, they hardly got to dance, etc? I don’t feel like that, at all. I got to stand at the bar and talk to old coworkers, dance with my college friends, grab a bite with some family friends, etc – the night seemed to last forever. It was the most relaxed, fun day of my life.
The amount of sincere compliments we got was outstanding – you can tell when people are complimenting you to be nice, or if they are sincere – and I don’t think we got any “fake” compliments.
Totally wish I could have crashed your wedding. Soudns fantstic. ^_^
The wedding I think would be the best ever in STL would be: Invite everyone to a Party at the Palm House, give them drinks and appetizers, while they are standing (or sitting) around, get married. A Surprise Wedding!
Then have lots more food, a stand up or sit down thing.
Someone I knew did just that and when I heard about I thought: Perfect.
It sounds like you and your guests had a great time! I am definitely bookmarking this post for when I have to sit down and think about the timeline of the day.
It seems like getting all the “pomp” out of the way at once (intro/dances/cakecutting) seemed to give you lots of time to mingle. I would love to do this, but my worry is that it would feel like we were running an obstacle course. (“Ok, do this, then this… then we go here… then there’s that… ok, done.”) Did it feel natural for you guys to just speed round all the wedding stuff at once? How do you think your guests felt about it?
The flow actually felt really natural – I think it’s because we did speech, dance, speech, dance, vs all the speeches than all the dances, and our speeches were brief (my MOH’s was the longest at maybe one minute?).
I know that a lot of our friends LOVED the arrangement – quicker to get to the partying, I suppose – and one of my most nit-picky, stodgey aunts actually just wrote my mom a card telling her how lovely everything was and that she felt like she didn’t miss anything because everything “important” happened in the beginning – it wasn’t like “oh, they cut the cake! I completely missed it because I was in the bathroom!”. I will say that our timeline did result in our cake cutting being more of a “thing” than we wanted. We wanted to just sneek over with our photogs/videogs and cut it, end of story, but because we did it right after the other stuff the crowd followed us over and we definitely had an audience.
Another thing to keep in mind is that since there wasn’t a traditional meal, there weren’t any courses for people to give a speech during, which normally is what guides the timeline. In addition, we were very focuses on the party not loosing momentum – I think that if we had broken the speechs/dances up more, extending them later into the evening, it would have really killed the party (we’d have to quiet everyone down, have them pay attention, etc). Of course, a good DJ helps with that – ours was fantastic and the music really set the ton for the evening.
Feel free to PM me (or reply here) if you have any questions – I can email you our timeline, too, if you like.
You looked beautiful and I love your dress! And love your choice of bridesmaids dresses. Congratulations on your wedding!
Your reception sounds fun, I rarely stay at my seat at a wedding anyway. As long as I could find a sear when I needed it, I wouldn’t mind at all.
Congratulations on the wedding!! Thanks for sharing the details! It sounds and looks like you guys had a blast. I really like the casual-ness of your wedding. It sounds like you and your husband were able to really run with your idea.
I do agree, I want my reception to be more of a party and casual. I’m hoping my vision plays out just as smooth!
StL.Ashley: Thank you soo much for sharing this post! We are doing something similar and I was so happy to see your post just now. I too am only providing partial seating as our focus is on more of a party atmosphere than it being a formal sit down event. Glad to know it works and also turned out to be an amazing day!
StL.Ashley: We did something very similar for our wedding! We had our entire wedding at a heritage house in our city. Our ceremony was at 6pm in the back yard, and only included family. It took about 15 minutes, and then we moved back to do a quick champagne toast and the first dances (though we didn’t combine the father/daughter mother/son dances, which is a good idea!).
Then at 7:00pm the reception started, with the rest of the guests arriving to a beer/wine open bar. We had 10 different appetizers, 5 cold and 5 hot, as well as vegetable platters and finger sandwiches. The cold food was tabled in the dining room while the hot appetizers were circulated by butler staff. We had a dance floor in the basement and had a few platters of food stationed there, too, for people to pick at. At 9:30ish we did the cake cutting (tiramisu, just for us) and then the staff put out cake balls for everyone else.
All in all, we had just under 100 people there and 1400 trayed appetizers, as well as sandwiches and vegetables. We had some food left over at the end of the night, but not a huge amount–we probably could have gotten away with 12 pieces per person instead of 14. We prioritized our budget on food and managed to get one of the best restaurants in our city to cater the event for the same price as a low-end plated meal (around $40/person total, without alcohol).
In terms of seating, we had the entire house to sit people as well as a few tabled set up on the porches, so we did have enough seats for everyone. That being said, though, the atmosphere of the reception meant that most people were circling with their hor doeurves rather than sitting. Our guests raved about the food and about the fact that the wedding was mostly just a giant mingle, and that having the dance floor (and the music) downstairs meant that people could actually talk and be heard. Admittedly, the dance floor wasn’t used as much as it probably would have been if everything had been on the same floor–there was a core of about 20 people on the floor all night, but otherwise most people stayed upstairs, so this type of set up probably isn’t for those looking for a giant dance party atmosphere. But we loved it!
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