(Closed) Tales from my cocktail reception (Beer/Wine/Apps, for dinner, limited seating)

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sounds like a wonderful reception!!!  

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

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StL.Ashley:  Congratulations Ashley! I went to school in STL and miss the Crater Copernicus from Ted Drews like it was a lover. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to share some of your wedding deets with us. My plans are pretty much buttoned up, but I still found what you shared informative. 

A couple questions:

1. Are gaps the norm in your area for weddings? 

2. What happened to all the extra food?  Did you get to take it? In my state it’s the law that any unbeaten food from a private party like a wedding cannot leave the restaurant. Wondering if that was the same for you.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

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doeydo:  And I am an old person and most of the parties I go to are stand around and eat apps parties. Really, we oldies can do it, just keep the alcohol flowing. I dislike being tethered to a table at parties.

The OP had 72 seats and about 100 guests. That’s a fine number of seats. And if people are dying to sit down they could sit out in the foyer, on the stairs, or could even go down to the bar area.

I know St. Louis well including the Tap Room.

OP, looks like you married either at MoBot Spink Pavillion or the Palm House at Tower Grove, the latter being my favorite place in all St. Louis for weddings.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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StL.Ashley:  aww, you look great! Thanks for sharing :). We got engaged around the same time, and I’ve been seeing a lot of your posts-so it’s nice to see it all come together.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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StL.Ashley:  Someone over on my thread told me to look you up because I am trying to do something similar so THANK YOU for sharing your experience. I am really excited at the idea of a cocktail reception…you have no idea. I squee with delight! haha 

Sounds like things went well for you and you have me even more excited now! 

Thank you again for posting this ^_^

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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StL.Ashley:  That sounds just wonderful. I will totally PM you as things come together if I start to get lost. We are all musicians and artists and goofy folks in the punk/ska scene…so this just makes more sense for us as a group. The only people I worry about is FH family…who are much more conservative but we will have plenty of regular seating and separate lounge areas away from the noise as well. But with 2-4 bands and my desire to have a casual feel … I think this is the best choice for us as well. 

Totally wish I could have crashed your wedding. Soudns fantstic. ^_^ 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

The wedding I think would be the best ever in STL would be: Invite everyone to a Party at the Palm House, give them drinks and appetizers, while they are standing (or sitting) around, get married. A Surprise Wedding!

Then have lots more food, a stand up or sit down thing.

Someone I knew did just that and when I heard about I thought: Perfect.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Monday Night Brewing

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StL.Ashley:  The only bad thing I have to say about your wedding is this… why was I not invited?!

It sounds like you and your guests had a great time! I am definitely bookmarking this post for when I have to sit down and think about the timeline of the day.

It seems like getting all the “pomp” out of the way at once (intro/dances/cakecutting) seemed to give you lots of time to mingle. I would love to do this, but my worry is that it would feel like we were running an obstacle course. (“Ok, do this, then this… then we go here… then there’s that… ok, done.”) Did it feel natural for you guys to just speed round all the wedding stuff at once? How do you think your guests felt about it?

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You looked beautiful and I love your dress! And love your choice of bridesmaids dresses. Congratulations on your wedding!

Your reception sounds fun, I rarely stay at my seat at a wedding anyway. As long as I could find a sear when I needed it, I wouldn’t mind at all. 

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Congratulations on the wedding!! Thanks for sharing the details! It sounds and looks like you guys had a blast. I really like the casual-ness of your wedding. It sounds like you and your husband were able to  really run with your idea.

I do agree, I want my reception to be more of a party and casual. I’m hoping my vision plays out just as smooth!

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

StL.Ashley:   Thank you soo much for sharing this post!  We are doing something similar and I was so happy to see your post just now.  I too am only providing partial seating as our focus is on more of a party atmosphere than it being a formal sit down event.  Glad to know it works and also turned out to be an amazing day!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 

StL.Ashley:  We did something very similar for our wedding! We had our entire wedding at a heritage house in our city. Our ceremony was at 6pm in the back yard, and only included family. It took about 15 minutes, and then we moved back to do a quick champagne toast and the first dances (though we didn’t combine the father/daughter mother/son dances, which is a good idea!).

Then at 7:00pm the reception started, with the rest of the guests arriving to a beer/wine open bar. We had 10 different appetizers, 5 cold and 5 hot, as well as vegetable platters and finger sandwiches. The cold food was tabled in the dining room while the hot appetizers were circulated by butler staff. We had a dance floor in the basement and had a few platters of food stationed there, too, for people to pick at. At 9:30ish we did the cake cutting (tiramisu, just for us) and then the staff put out cake balls for everyone else.

All in all, we had just under 100 people there and 1400 trayed appetizers, as well as sandwiches and vegetables.  We had some food left over at the end of the night, but not a huge amount–we probably could have gotten away with 12 pieces per person instead of 14. We prioritized our budget on food and managed to get one of the best restaurants in our city to cater the event for the same price as a low-end plated meal (around $40/person total, without alcohol).

In terms of seating, we had the entire house to sit people as well as a few tabled set up on the porches, so we did have enough seats for everyone. That being said, though, the atmosphere of the reception meant that most people were circling with their hor doeurves rather than sitting. Our guests raved about the food and about the fact that the wedding was mostly just a giant mingle, and that having the dance floor (and the music) downstairs meant that people could actually talk and be heard. Admittedly, the dance floor wasn’t used as much as it probably would have been if everything had been on the same floor–there was a core of about 20 people on the floor all night, but otherwise most people stayed upstairs, so this type of set up probably isn’t for those looking for a giant dance party atmosphere. But we loved it!

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