(Closed) Talk about ungrateful!

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Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is awful…so so so awfule. And i agree you should hide her feed so you dont have to see this.

BUT i have to point out that you not donating anymore “Sorry, but I flat out refuse to support someone who has that attitude and I know I’m not alone.” In the long run, isnt punishing her its punishing their son. I agree their behavious is unacceptable but sometimes youhave to focus on the root of the issue.

NOW if you posted this a week ago i would say, dont give them anymore money, de-friend her and move on. BUT my family just went through a crisis (my cousin passed away) and my aunt and uncle have been broke for the last 2 years. Well family gave them money to go pick up my cousins  etc and my mom paid to have the funeral and the guess what…..they are going on a trip, all inclusive for a week at a 5 star hotel.  So there was family that were upset with this…but the point is…you dont really know their circumstances behind closed doors….and although what your “friend” wrote was inappropriate (and i agree you should be upset!) sometimes we just dont know the whole picture…

Post # 18
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6350 posts
Bee Keeper

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@Baileyh: Oh honey. I’m sorry about your cousin.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@SoontobeMrsA: ahh thanks! 🙁  Its been a rough week.

 

Dont mean to threadjack though! **sorry**

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Unfriend her…now…actually do it yesterday. I do see @Baileyh’s point about not knowing what is going on behind closed doors. But I also think people need to learn to filter their words a little bit. The internet gives us something to hide behind, but doesn’t give us an excuse to be hateful and ungrateful.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m very  sorry about your cousin BaileyH, but I have to disagree. I would not fund this couple’s vacations and pricey cars. I give to a few nationally recognized charities consistently, and to smaller local ones when I can — but if I saw a couple using the money for themselves? No way. That is immoral and unethical. Now, if they were raising money for let’s say a condition their son had and the money went straight to a recognized charitable organization, then I understand. But if they are taking money in for themselves? It’s possibly illegal too.

 

 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@UpstateCait: HA! I had been copying and pasting the comments, but never thought of screen shotting it! JUST did all that, now I’ll send it over to them so if she denies she said those things, well, we’ve got screen shots. THANK YOU!

 

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@Meealissa: heh. To the random person it looks harmless, but when you know what’s going on, she’s being an ungrateful bitch. Maybe I’ll write up my own post. 🙂

Post # 25
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2904 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Block her from your newsfeed. You don’t need that.

 

Oh, the drama that facebook creates. I have purposefully been avoiding any wedding status updates because I don’t want to be annoying. So yesterday I posted about the best cheesecake place in SF because I’m going home (yes for a dress fitting, but seriously who knows that? I’m going home to see my folks).

And then suddendly the whole thing blows up about who has cheesecake for a wedding. And of course my auntie did, and so she comments. Dammit, I just want a slice of cheesecake! For a regular, non wedding dessert.

 

Facebook is ridiculous. But I still go there and check it.

 

All that side talk written, she’s just someone from high school and she is obviously annoying you to no end. Take her off your newfeed and/or defriend her. Problem solved.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@UpstateCait: yeah i agree with your..there is deff. a rift now bc of this vacation!! 🙁

Post # 27
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Honey bee

Unfortunetly, things like this happen everyday. I know plenty of people who get hand-outs, charity, etc. and they take fabulous vacations, shopping trips, the works. But I agree with others, you never know whats going on behind closed doors. I just hope that the child is getting the care he deserves.

Post # 28
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly, @CaitMarie, I’m with you.  If I had a special needs or sick child, all of my funds would be poured into the care that is needed, I would not be taking vacations or buying new cars, especially if I were receiving charity assistance.  That just looks really bad.  I know we don’t know what is going on behind closed doors, but it is all about perception.  If people see you taking vacations, then asking others for money, then they perceive that you are using their money for vacations.    I wouldn’t give money unless I were sure that it was going to the exact cause I was giving to. 

Post # 29
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just don’t get people sometimes. I would regret ever giving her a penny if I were one of her “friends”.

Post # 30
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@UpstateCait: I don’t think you’re hurting her son by not donating. Yes, he’s blind, but lack of donations isn’t affecting him negatively. What this woman is doing is guilt-tripping her friends list.

Yeah, blindness really sucks, but you also want to feel like if you give money to someone’s cause, they’re going to appreciate it – no matter how small the amount. I agree with everyone else. Either defriend or block this woman and take her negativity out of your life.

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