(Closed) TALK ABOUT YOUR BEST FRIEND/ FRIENDS!!!

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Post # 2
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I don’t have friends from my childhood. We moved around too much. But I have 3 good mom friends. I’ve known my oldest friend for 5 yrs…my other friend for 2 yrs and my best friend for 4 yrs. My friends are the best friends I have ever had.

Post # 3
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205 posts
Helper bee

I have one bestie who I’ve known since college (12 years!!) and a couple of friends from work that I’ve known for 9-10 years. All fabulous women. Instinctually, I go to them before family for everything (good and bad) probably because I know they will be the most supportive and genuine.

Post # 4
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987 posts
Busy bee

My OG bestfriend and I met when we were 5 and we were friends all through grade school but didnt become attached at the hip until about age 13 or so. We stopped communicating in February this year over something super petty and thus threw away almost 20 years of friendship. She reached out to me a few weeks ago to clear the air. We aren’t bestfriends again, but I feel better knowing there is no beef.

One of the closest people to me right now is an ex boyfriend from over 7 years ago. And before ppl get all “you can’t be best friends with your ex” we are legit. He has a baby with another woman and lives thousands of miles away so there is no temptation there. I actually havent seen him in 5 years. My girl bestfriend I just met a little over 2 years ago but she is my lifeline. Anything major in my life or if I need advice – I call her. My other girl bestfriend is someone I’ve been besties with since highschool… she lives in Dallas now so I havent seen her in forever, but I love her like my sister. Ive also gotten pretty close to a woman in my grad program. My other bestfriend by default would happen to be my mom. 

Post # 5
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171 posts
Blushing bee

Oh look, I’ve written a novel here.

Well. My group of college girl friends and I all live a few hours away from each other and get together for major life events (babies, weddings, etc) and once a year for our annual Fakesgiving dinner (which we just had last weekend). One of those girls used to be my best friend and at one point (many years ago) she was actually my serious girlfriend for about a year. After we broke up things were weird for months but out BFFship returned to a close one. However…she’s super mean and manipulative to me. Like extremely controlling and constantly guilt tripping me and just toxic as hell. And even manipulated me into calling her and pitying her when I would be out with my boyfriend (of many years. Seriously all the ex drama was like 8 years ago for she and I). So that bad behavior all came to a head last year. She was engaged to a wonderful lady (we’ll call her J) and I became really good friends with J through her. I was even maid of honor and helping her plan her wedding to J when things went sour for them and they broke up. Fast forward a few months and she’s with a new lady (who she is engaged to now) and J is with a new lady (who she is married to now) and J and I are still good friends and even work together. Well that friend didn’t like that too much even though she told me she’s never ask me to stop being friends with J. She basically cut me out of her life and I’m actually really relieved because she treated me like garbage. But we still have these close mutual friends right? Who we were visiting at the same tome last weekend. They are all her bridesmaids and although we were both super cordial to each other last weekend, she still made it a point to plan a trip to shop for bridesmaids dresses while I was there. So I got to awkwardly mill around while they did that. Haha. 

But honestly, J is the best friend I’ve ever had. She is caring and looks out for me and makes me laugh and pushes me to be a better person. If losing that other girl as a friend had to happen so be it but I will never feel guilty for keeping a wonderful person in my life. 

TL;DR: my ex best friend gave me the boot for becoming best friends with her ex. My life is better for it. 

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