Post # 1
Hi again, Bees!
Things have been moving very positively toward engagement for my SO and me. Our two year anniversary is tomorrow, and to celebrate, we are taking a two week trip to California in May.
For the last couple months, he’s been deathly silent on the topic of marriage, and I was happy to let it be since we’d been talking about wedding dates before that and had gone to put a ring on layaway in January. However, with our trip approaching, he’s been suddenly very excited. In the last week, he’s done the following:
- Asked me if we’d be seeing my mother and father before we leave for the trip, because it’s important (side note: we will be seeing them on Sunday at a family gathering, and he usually doesn’t want to see my parents because they don’t necessarily get along… Differences in religious beliefs, etc)
- Asked, out of the blue, if I liked and/or would be interested in going on a hot air balloon ride while in CA because he’s heard it’s very romantic. He asked my friend, too, if that’s something a girl would like doing (she said yes). When I asked him about it, though, he tried to shrug it off. Interesting to note here that he doesn’t like heights…
- He text me today and told me “Oh, man. You are going to LOVE our 2 year anniversary gift.” When I asked about it playfully, he said “Well, I already had it in mind but had to get it made… It’ll be a bit late 🙁 but it’ll be here next week!” And when I asked if it’s better than a massage (which I got him for our anniversary), he only winked.
- A couple weekends ago, he said he wanted to propose to me but it had to wait because he has an amazing plan coming up.
I am psyched. So excited. And I need you Bees to calm me down because I think it’s coming during our trip. Please, talk me out of this! I don’t want to get my hopes up too high, but this trip is so special to us, and….eek!!!
(If it does happen, I need to figure out how to go get my nails done for the trip without raising suspicion – as I’ve never gotten my nails done before.)
Post # 2
So exciting. Just enjoy this time. Since he is clearly excited about it and moving in the right direction, leave the topic alone unless he brings it up. Sounds like he has some awesome plans and you’ll both probably enjoy it more if you are surprised! If he asks you to get up super early to go on a hot air balloon ride, do it!!! 😀
Post # 3
Hi! I most definitely will be surprised no matter what; it’s just the suspense that’s making me feel so jittery, like I’ve just had a ton of caffeine. I’m not planning on saying anything to him.
But I think I’m making my best friend crazy with my texts, so I wanted an outside perspective. It’s soooooo hard to not be crazy elated about this. Haha.
Thank you for your encouragement!
Post # 4
I’m going to be a teeny bit of a downer – My advice is as promising as everything sounds, try to enjoy the trip as it is. If you’re constantly thinking ‘is it going to be now?’ you’ll miss everything else (and be really really disappointed if for some reason it doesn’t happen.
I was with DH for 8.5 years before he proposed, I was ‘waiting’ for 6. I ruined a lot of great things for myself constantly wondering if it would be today. Guys can be funny. DH got super excited about his present for me for our 5th anniversary telling me that I’d love it, no way I wouldn’t like it and so on. We’d talked about getting married quite a few times, he’d moved cross country with me the year before….he bought me pillows. Really nice pillows…but they were pillows.
Post # 5
I definitely agree with MsGinkgo and was in the same position so I will also be cautiously excited for you! 🙂 Have a great time on your trip regardless. Oh, and my bff and I were waiting at the same time and got engaged 1 month apart! I think our fiances knew that they had to keep the engagements close together to avoid any kind of mental breakdowns from one of us haha. 😉 If she’s not currently waiting you might be driving her a little nuts so good call coming to the bee!
Post # 6
Ha your story made me existed so I can only imagine how you feel! You’ve got to be cool though! I’m sure he’s both existed and stressed out right about now so if you started acting anyway other than the normal amount of exited for what admittedly sound like an awesome trip you might tip him off. The best part is how he clearly is trying to surprise you so let him damn it lol!
MsGinkgo: Okay the pilllow story made me laugh, although at the time I’m sure it was anything but funny. I hope you gave him a good wack with it
Post # 8
I agree with others…don’t get yourself TOO excited just incase it isn’t what he’s planning. You wouldn’t want to be disappointed in a nice trip if it doesn’t. But I agree with you that it definitely sounds like a possibility!
My suggestion on the nails is to make plans with a friend. Then it doesn’t look like it’s just you wanting to get them done…but a friend wanted you to go with her! 🙂
Good luck and keep us posted!!
Post # 9
Update: Thank you so much for calming me down! I’m really trying not to get my hopes up about the trip, BUT…
Yesterday afternoon we met up with my family for a birthday celebration. Right before we left, my SO asked my dad to go on a private walk with him…and asked my dad’s blessing for us to get married! The poor guy was so nervous, haha, but my dad is enthusiastic about it and said YES! So it’s not a proposal, but it’s a definite step and my SO is hinting that he’s going to ask very very soon. It may not be on the trip, but it’ll be this summer for sure!
Alpine1994: Thankfully, my bff is married with three kids. Haha. I’m actually one of the only ones in my group of friends who are actually waiting to get married. A couple others are engaged right now and will have their weddings this summer.
MsGinkgo: Thank you for sharing! He got you pillows? I laughed at that; what is it with guys and thinking girls want pillows and kitchen devices, etc, for their birthdays and anniversaries? I have yet to receive my anniversary gift, but if it’s a pillow, I might just run after him with it. 🙂