(Closed) Talk me out of snooping, please.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Can you imagine if you got caught…. talk about being “not accepted”.

I can sometimes uderstand when Bees snoop through email or something of their husbands (not that I think it is right ) but this is WAY over the top.

And what would you do with the information anyway. Tell them or your Fiance that you were snooping?

NO, no, no, no….

Post # 5
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t do it! Just think of the consequences of being caught in the act.

Post # 6
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2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsCreeToBe:  Omg!!! Don’t do it! What’s the good that could come from it? What if you got caught? What if you did snoop and found nothing whatsoever about you? How would that make you feel? 

As a matter of fact, it is none of your business what anybody else thinks of you. 

Post # 8
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

it’s kinda odd that they both left their phones.  i have mine on me almost always, as do most people i know.  could it be that your suspicions are correct and they’re trying to catch you?!?!  don’t do it!!!!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsCreeToBe:  Like I said, it’s really none of your business what anybody thinks of you. And honestly…often we tend to think that we are a far more popular topic of conversation than we actually are. In other words (and at the risk of sounding mean), it’s not all about you. Live your life and don’t get caught up so much in what others think of you. 

Post # 10
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsCreeToBe:  unfortunately, you can’t force them to like you- they didn’t choose to gain you as a family member, Fiance did.  just smile and be the best person you can be- someone who does not snoop through others’ phones- and hopefully with time your relationship with them will grow.

Post # 11
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4657 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

if they liked you before, you snooping in their phones would certainly change that!

Post # 12
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sillysillybee:  THIS X 1000

It’s not your business what they think of you and say about you in their private conversations. They aren’t required to like you; they are only required to treat you respectfully as a member of the family. If they’re already doing that, then it seems like you’re better off than about 95% of the bees posting here.

What you’re contemplating can only cause trouble. Either you’ll find nothing, which won’t convince you they like you, or you’ll find something, and your worst fears will be confirmed. But then what? You can’t confront them. You can’t treat them differently. You’ll just have to sit with your guilty knowledge and stew.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Genuinely curious – let’s say you snoop and find out they DO strongly dislike you? Then what? You confront them? You smugly have the knowledge they don’t like you? Are you going to tell your FI?

Snooping can only end badly even if you don’t get caught, and don’t find anything.

Post # 14
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2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

OH MY GOD!!! DO NOT DO THIS….step away from their phones, step away!

Post # 15
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1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t do it. The only ‘goal’ I can see of you doing this, is finding out that actually they DO like you, and then you get relief. But the chance of that happening is very, very small and not worth the risk. 

If you really want to know, talk to them. 

Post # 16
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8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

In situations like this I always try and think about what if I was the other person. So how would you feel if they snooped through your phone? How would you feel if you found out someone was talking about/thinking about you talking about them when you are not?

I always find that it helps me to see how crazy I am being when I flip the situation.

Besides that, life is too short to spend your time worrying about what other people think of you. Right now you could be curled up with your Fiance or spending time with his family and instead you are worrying about this shit! Sounds like a time waste to me.

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