(Closed) Talk to me about OOT weddings!

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Honey bee

I wouldn’t mind attending an Out of Town wedding on a Sunday. Like you said, if you had a Saturday wedding, guests would likely still take off Friday to travel. So for a Sunday wedding, really the only difference IMO would be having to take off Monday instead of Friday. NBD!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Well at both FI’s and my workplaces, it’s much easier to take Fridays off (both because alot of other people are often out or working from home or because it’s just generally a slower day workwise, with fewer calls/meetings scheduled). Mondays are tougher to miss — and even if it is just a day off no matter what, I tend to find myself scrambling more to catch up once I’m back after a Monday off than a Friday off.

that being said though, to attend the wedding of a loved one, I would still go.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

It’s fine to do this but it will definitely cut down your acceptance rate. I would for sure provide transportation to and from the main hotel block for people’s safety and enjoyment. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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wonderlily:  I think just the main block is fine. On the website/invited you say this is the recommended hotel where transportation departs/returns from. And then alternatively you say there is also x y and z hotel. I would make an email so people can RSVP for the bus and put that on the invite too.

The distance and Sunday will impact your acceptance rate- but your nearest and dearest will surely be there. Those on the fence might be swayed by the fact that they can enjoy themselves without driving back in an unknown city.

You just need to decide what’s more important- a bigger wedding or the venue you want. My wedding was a 2.5 hour flight or 6 hour drive away for 80% of guests on a Saturday. We had 130/205. Location was worth it to us. I don’t need the people we barely know just coming to party because it’s in town. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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wonderlily:  We got married on a Sunday not by choice but because that’s the day the venue was available. Our ceremony was at 4 and all the main reception events were finished by 8:30. We had the wedding in the town where we live which is where many people have destination weddings. We are 40 miles from the nearest airport, which is a small airport, and quite a drive for most people we invited. We had 95/160 attend, which worked out great because we really didn’t want to leave people out on invitations but also weren’t excited about the cost of food for 165. 

I didn’t hear much about the day being an issue for people, there were a few that left early on Monday morning to catch flights or drive home, but most people didn’t seem rushed to get out of town. We had a 10 AM – Noon brunch on Monday. I wouldn’t change the venue if you love it. Those friends and family that really want to be there will make it work. Do your guests a favor and research the closest hotels to the venue and be ready to suggest the least expensive options. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

We did out of town.  If it’s at all possible, I suggest paying for at least one night at the very least for your bridal party.  We did so for our closest friends as well, to encourage them to join us.  We let the older crowd suffer as they’re generally more established.  we had about a 50% Yes rate on our invites.  In our case, plane tickets were needed for most.  I was disappointed by some of the ‘no’s but only because I was either led on initially (old friends) or didn’t get a response at all (I’m looking at you, Uncle and his entire family, all adults!).  We invited everyone to our rehearsal dinner (self-catered) and brunch the day after.  Sent locals home with leftovers and flowers.  Welcome bags for everyone – bonus, the one thing everyone appreciated the most was fresh croissants in the welcome bag; no need to worry about breakfast the day after arrival, or a snack that night.

Basically what I’m saying is do what you can to make it easy and more convenient for your guests and they’ll be fine.  I doubt Sat vs. Sun matters much if everyone will have to take a day off no matter what.  Maybe you could also set up a carpool hookup on your wedding website (if you have one) to help the people who are less likely to come if they have to come on their own.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I think you should do what you like and what you can afford, but recognize that a lot of people may have to decline.  Mondays are difficult for many people to miss at work.  I would also definitely provide transportation to the venue.

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