Make sure anyone who’s giving toasts/speeches has enough time to stress out about it 😉
Have a day of schedule, which includes transportation, who needs to be where when, who’s responsible for things like putting out programs, picking up things after the ceremony, making sure flower girls are in the right spot and have somewhere to go when they’re done.. etc. Some of this might be covered by a planner.
Game plan for presents: where, then where and who will relocate them.
Put together envelopes with cash and/or thank yous for any vendors who require payment day of, to be given to the best man.
Hotel or whatever – arrangements for you and your new spouse for that evening!
List of phone numbers of all the vendors and important people, like cells for the bridal party/parents/home base house/salons.
Give the MC, groomsman, etc, or print into a program, a phone number for a taxi or details on any transportation you’ve worked out.
Buy a garter, if you’re going to have one.
Work on a music list.
Website, if you’re doing one.
Register for gifts.
Buy thank you cards and stamps. If you can pre-address the envelopes, even better! Make a spreadsheet or something to keep track of what you got from who, and if you’ve sent a thank you. Keep in mind showers, people who can’t make it but still send gifts, etc.
If you’re going to focus on neurotic details (I did on some), do you want salt and pepper packs, plastic creamer cups, sugar packets? Or do you want those in shakers/jugs? Do you want to make bathroom baskets?
Do you need to make any direction signs for the road for people to find the place?
Are you going to do pre-marital counselling?
Spouse’s clothing sorted out?
Any wedding party clothing to sort out?
Food for you for the morning of the wedding?
Have a nice hanger, for when pictures are taken of your dress.
…. I really hope this list doesn’t overwhelm anyone who’s not looking to be overwhelmed!!