(Closed) talking about ending it :(

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry you are both having to go through this.

I have always believed that “where there is a will, there is a way.”

If you two are meant to be together, you will find a way to do so. To me, if you are both considering breaking it off, maybe it wasn’t/isn’t meant to be.

Post # 4
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2820 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

*HUGs* I’m sorry you’re going through this. : ( I guess the only advice I can give you is that if you’re really worth it to each other, you’ll find a way to work it out. So I think you need to think about that before deciding if you want to end it — don’t end the relationship over inabilities to get a visa, because there are always ways around that (speaking of which, why can’t he come to Canada?). If you’re going to end a relationship, I’d take into account whether you want to be in the relationship anymore. (I was getting conflicting vibes from your post, so I’m not sure which way you’re leaning without the visa issue.)

*more HUGs* Either way, you have the support of the Hive. Hopefully some Bees with a bit more experience in LD relationships & immigration can help you out a bit more with suggestions of how to get a visa.

Post # 6
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

How many years would you be waiting? Also, I guess you need to figure out how important the relationship is to you. Say you break up with him so that you can have a family(I’m assuming you mean kids by “family”) and then don’t end up finding someone else for a few years. I wouldn’t go just by that because you could actually end up waiting longer. Ultimatly, you want the person youare meant to be with. So you need to evaluate if your Fiance is the one for you or not and go from there.

Post # 8
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Really to me, it sounds like he has some serious growing up to do.  If he is still in school and has been for 10 years, he doesn’t seem motivated enough to get a job, let alone get married (unless he is going to be a doctor, in that case, disregard my comments).

Post # 9
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Honestly, I tend to agree with MissAsB….

I’m sorry you are going through this. I know how rough an LDR is.

Post # 11
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@nycbrde2011: could you encourage him to get a part-time job? That would at least put some employment on record. Also, what educational requirements do you lack?

Post # 15
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

A part-time job would get his foot in the door for a full-time job. I strongly encourage baby steps.

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