- 8 years ago
Hello!! So I am currently in France studying abroad for 4 months. I am a senior in college and have a bf back home of 7 months now who is also in his last year. He is nothing short than amazing! Seriously anything you could possibly want and imagine in someone he is and then some- and i consider him a best friend.
However, a couple things are on my mind that I just want to get in the open and hopefully have some people ease my mind on- preferably from people who have been in similar situations- but all comments will be appreciated!!
He is coming to visit me in 3 weeks. We talk literally everyday and share everything with each other and for the most part this LDR has been extremely smooth despite the time difference. And dont worry, making the most of my time here not getting hung up from being away from him- we both understand our studies are important and I need to make the most of this trip and he has always been supportive. Anyway, Im getting nervous about him coming!! I dont know why exactly….we have been talking about marriage a lot though because were both planning on moving to california for jobs and i told him i didnt want to live with someone unless its something more than a bf…but for some reason im just so nervous about everything!!! wasnt nervous until we started talkng about it. dont get me wrong i love him and couldnt picture anyone more perfect, but i guess i just see so many horrible divorces all the time including my own parents and his family as well. just seeing people SO happy at first and tell each other its never going to happen to them and then it does. its just been so long since weve seen each other and i get crazy thoughts like his mind will change or my mind will change and weve already been talking about so much!! sometimes i feel myself kind distance with him emotionally in my mind, too.
have any of you ever been in an LDR like this and felt this way when you were apart but everything just kinda fell into place once you were together again? im hoping thats what itll be for me!! and same with marriage- ever been so incredibly happy but got extremely nervous when marriage was talked about seriously and even somewhat started to feel differently about them? although were both 22, yes young, i dont think age has anything to do with it because i know myself and i feel even if something as serious waited to be talked about until we were 30 ide still feel the same way.
just looking for some much needed comfort!!! thanks so much!!!