(Closed) Talking about wedding with people not invited

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

ha i had this issue too, especially with people at work.  they ask about it and what am i supposed to do, NOT answer??  it’s a tough one.  I think you’re method of being vague or changing the subject is a good one.

Post # 4
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I struggle with this too, and think I actually *look* awkward. I try to change the subject but they usually just keep asking me questions. I remember though knowing SO many people who were engaged, and I would ask questions about the wedding because I genuinely wanted to know, but had no qualms whatsoever about not being invited. I think as long it stays in neutral territory and doesn’t get into specifics (“So, what time should I be there?”), you’re okay 🙂

Post # 5
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We have been very careful not to talk about the wedding plans with friends we won’t be able to invite due to budget issues. When they ask I simply say “it’s coming along nicely. How is           in your life going?” Sometimes that worked, other times not so much. There are a few friend who are planning weddings too and we talk details and know that we won’t be invited to each other’s wedding. Maybe find a friend like that if you want to gush about your newest DIY project.

Post # 6
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ejs1228: I do the same.

I just tend to not bring it up because of the few people I’m not inviting. If it does come up I deflect. I’ll say, “I’m excited about it, but it’s nothing to stress about just yet.  Now, more importantly, what are we going to do about lunch?”  It usually works.

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