Post # 1
Does anyone have this happen??? It’s almost a given that when my boyfriend has had a drink or two…or more, he starts talking about our future together and kids and marraige and a new house. It’s great! But when he has not had a drink or anything, he rarely mentions it. He will still talk about our future sometimes, but not get as into the conversation. This is so frustrating to me, maybe because I am more the lay it all on the line type of person, but geez! After being together almost 3 years, I want some commitment 🙂 Any good ideas for some ice breakers to talk about it when we are just hanging out at the house watching tv or making dinner, anything??
Post # 3
Just bring it up casually I guess. SO and I used to bring it up after a few drinks but eventually we both felt it natural to discuss it sober. Just take it slow, and don’t expect too much from him. You can start generally and then refer to yourselves as a couple 🙂
Post # 4
My Fiance used to do the same thing, so it’s definitely a good sign! I think guys have an easier time accessing their own “mushy” emotions after a few drinks. It sounds like you guys are very close and he loves you – maybe you shouldn’t worry about ice breakers and just ask what he thinks of getting married, and if he wants to, what time frame he’s thinking of. It’s scary to propose, and he might have no idea that you’re ready! GL
Post # 5
I agree with the other poster. My SO does the samething. He said it’s easier to open up. Which I agree with him on that comment towards himself. We have had some of our best talks when he’s had something to drink. We went to a local club here in town that you have to be a member of. He told everyone the other night we were getting married. Which we had already had this talk before alone, but I think my mouth hit the floor when he announced it.LOL He’s not one that expresses his feelings. So it made me really happy to say the least. Everyone was happy for us. So I would say your Boyfriend or Best Friend is being honest about his feelings and he’s really thinking about popping the question. 🙂
Post # 6
@Cecilia37: Very true about my SO. He is a man’s man I guess you could say, not trying to show too much emotion. But the real side comes out especially after a couple drinks! lol
Post # 7
Thanks for all your posts…I feel a little better about the situation now. It helps to get other women’s opinions that are or were in the same boat! I think I will try to break the ice tonight and see where it takes me.