(Closed) Taller than your FI? Shoes…

posted 9 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve been thinking on the same problems, though I am nowhere near a solution yet. My Fiance is about 3 inches shorter.

Depending on the kind of dress you are wearing, you may want to check out a nice Indian store and see if they have beaded flats. I own a pair, and they could go well with a fancier dress.

Post # 4
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are also the same height! I haven’t decided what to do yet, but those ballet slippers sound tempting!

Post # 5
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

What about sandal flats?  They might be a little more casual than what you were looking at, but they’d be perfect for a summer wedding.  Here’s a few I like:






Post # 6
275 posts
Helper bee

Mr. Gloss is about 3" shorter than me….when he has shoes on and I don’t.  There is no way I will be shorter than him on our wedding, and I’m nervous about the pictures looking funny, but to me the height thing doens’t really matter – obviously we will try to minimize the difference.  But o’well, thats ‘us’ and it would be odd otherwise.  And I bought peep-toe Cole Haan flats (super comfy) – PLUS my dress would have been too short had I worn heels anyways! 

Post # 7
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I’m about 1.5-2 inches shorter than Mr. MJ, so I’m going to aim for flats or low heels and his shoes will probably have some good sole to them.

On one hand, I’d like to step up as a tall girl and say WHO SAYS YOU HAVE TO BE SHORTER? You’re both equals! But on the other hand I totally understand because no lady I know enjoys towering over other people. Doesn’t exactly make you feel delicate.lol.

A friend of mine is a good 3 or 4 inches taller than her husband, and her photographer did some creative things with stairs. They did some where she was maybe 2 stairs down in front of him.  And some where they were on uneven ground, him higher up the hill than her (they had a beach wedding). 

Post # 8
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I am in the exact same boat as you are.  Fiance and I are both 5’8.  I come from a super tall family (in which I am the shortest person in the whole family) and I’m not used to being taller. Therefore I will be wearing the flattest shoes possible. In fact I’ve pretty much retired all my heels on an every day basis too.  I just hate being taller than Fiance.  The only time I break out my heels is when I’m going out with the girls or when he’s wearing his boots (and even then they are my lowest heels).

Here are some previous postings with lots of flats that people have picked out (inclucing the pair I fell in love with in the third posting).  Hopefully they will give you some inspiration.



Hunting for Gold Flats

Anyone wearing flats?

Post # 9
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We’re also the same height. I have a short dress, too, so I want to make sure my shoes are extra cute. I’m still shopping.

Post # 10
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We are so similar to your situation.  My dress won’t show my shoes so I ended up buying these lacy cute white flats from payless!  I want to be comfortable (with myself) and I like when he’s a tad bit taller, so I didn’t even want a small heel. 

Post # 11
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yes, I’m taller than my FI! I’m about 6 feet tall and he’s about 5’10". Eek. I personally feel uncomfortable towering over him.

I’m wearing these:


you can find them elsewhere for cheaper. They are VERY comfy b/c they are real leather (which gives nicely) and the padded footbed. Plus, the white leather (it’s not patent like the site says) and the silver footbed look dressy. If they peek out from under my dress, they just look adorable.

 And you can wear them after the wedding!!!!

Post # 13
898 posts
Busy bee

If we’re getting technical, i’m really about a half inch taller than he is, but neither of us really care. At first, I was self-conscious when I wore heels, but he absolutely loves me in heels, and it doesn’t bother him to be the short one.

If we get married on the beach, pictures won’t really show it, as I’ll be barefoot or flip-flops. Anywhere else, I will most likely wear some awesome 3-4 inch heels and neither of us will think anything of it.

Anyways…I was going to suggest getting some really simple ballet flats, and if you’re crafty, you could always add little embellishments yourself. And those little Indian shoes have been pretty popular among my friends.

Post # 14
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m about an inch or two shorter depending on the shoe.  I’m so mad right now because I CANNOT find the shoe that I want.  Why are all the kitten heels the same? I want a  1 or 2 inch jeweled peep toe.  Is that asking too much?

Post # 15
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow — I am actually really glad I read this thread.  I am trying to decide on a shoe height because my wedding dress shop says they need to know the height of the shoe in order to order the right dress length…well actually they think tomorrow I am coming in with my actual wedding shoes but I haven’t picked them out yet so I am hoping that if I just come in with something of a similar height, they will be cool with that.

Anyway, all I have been thinking about is making sure I have comfortable heels, but I am only about 2 or 3 inches shorter than my fiance and I feel like I am taller than him in heels.  Now that I read this I realize — I would like to look shorter than him in pictures, and since my dress is long, what do I need heels for…although I am petite and curvy and it always helps to have a bit of extra height…but anyway this thread is definitely making me think shorter heel rather than higher…thanks guys! 

Post # 16
41 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

My Fiance and I are right at the same height, too, so I toyed with this dilemma. Until I found these!!



A few years ago, we searched Manhattan high and low for a particular pair of freakin’ Jack Purcell sneakers…and he finally found them…online. He’s wearing his beloved Jack Purcell converse low-tops while the groomsmen will wear similar Chuck Taylor converse sneakers. I’m surprising him with a a pair of Jack Purcell white ballet flats under my dress. Talk about comfort!!

I may or may not embellish them to make them a bit more "bridal." But I kinda like the clean lines of the plain canvas.

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