Post # 1
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Busy bee
My fiance and I starting to get together our guest lists. However, we need addresses for a majority of our friends we are going to invite. Unfortunately, we don’t have up-to-date phone numbers or emails for some of these people. Would it be tacky to Facebook message people and ask for their mailing address? I can’t think of any other way to contact these people. I just don’t want to start off the wedding planning process with a major faux pas. Thanks!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I facebooked people to ask for their addresses, I actually had to do this a few times because people moved, some numerous times so facebook was the easiest way to make sure I could get their addresses without depending on others to get them for me!
Post # 4
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Honey bee
@thatredheadedbride: If you don’t have a phone number or email, I would send them a facebook message (not write on their wall or make a general status) and make sure you ask for an email address and phone number too for when you’re trying to follow up on RSVPs.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
As long as you MESSAGE them privately, and not post on their wall, you’re okay.
And as long as you’re using facebook to obtain their address (for a formal invite) and not just inviting them to the wedding via facebook, then I think it’s use is perfectly acceptable.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
You could also use a whitepages or 411 online directory to get their mailing address, if you know where they live but don’t gave all the details.
We did this for a lot of our friends: we’ve been there many times, but did’t have their postal code or exact house number (and blue house with big maple tree in front doesn’t work for mail).
Post # 7
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Busy bee
This might only be a Canada thing… But if you go on 411.com I think, just look up their name or something and it gives you their mailing address, phone number, everything. 🙂
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Yup, I messaged a few people for them. I don’t think anyone will think of it as tacky, they will be excited to give you their address!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I sent private, individual messages (rather than a group message) on facebook. As people often have their phones on them all the time, I found that most people responded really quickly. My teenage cousin responded in about 15 seconds.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I called people, and sent Facebook messages. I also used the address gathering time as a verbal STD.
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
As long as it’s a private message, I think it’s totally fine. If you want to not clue them in that it’s about the wedding (though they may assume and/or hope anyway), you can say something like, “Hey, this is the most recent number I have for you and I tried it and couldn’t reach you. Would you send me your full contact information so I can keep my address book up-to-date?”
Also, send each person his/her own message.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Thanks for the input everyone! I’m going to message everyone privately and obtain their addresses and phone numbers that way.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
I did a mass message on facebook in October/November 2011 (we got engaged in July 2011) for addresses and hinted that it was to get geared up for Christmas cards….got a ton that way.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
Totally fine. I sent pm’s to about 4 or 5 people. It was super handy.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
@thatredheadedbride: I also facebooked a few people & I also emailed the parents of some cousins etc asking their parents for their postal addresses.
