(Closed) Tasting DRAMA.. opinions/help?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Go alone. I’m sorry 🙁 Your father is being an *ss.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your Dad is acting beyond ridiculous.

In the interest of having a good time, making smart decisions without drama interferring, I’d say just go with your Fiance.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@taniaelvin091011: I would invite them both. Let them know exactly how you feel. “You’re both my parents. I love you and I want you both there.” Then let them chose. No fighting. Just invites and move on. If they try to fight, just say you’re not talking about it, “here’s the date, I hope you can make it”

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d go alone, tell your dad if he doesn’t like it he can grow up…

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with your fiance, I think you should just go alone to the tasting. Save the drama for other things that come up.

I hate it when parents try to pit their children against each other. It’s not fair, when they are kids or when they are adults. It sounds like, from what you wrote, that your mom is trying her best to be civil and your dad is the one causing drama. I don’t know exactly what to tell you about how to handle your dad, but I think you really need to express to him openly and honestly (in an adult manner) that his behavior is hurting you and you want to be able to celebrate your wedding with everyone, including BOTH of your parents.

Good luck! I have lots of divorced parent drama myself and it’s definitely no fun. Ever consider eloping?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just go with your Fiance only

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I say, go alone. I didn’t get to go to my own tasting 🙁 so I’ll be jealous of you!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’d say go alone as well.

Also if it makes you feel any better this is exactly how my fiance’s family is! His mom and dad are divorced and even though his dad left his mom for a younger woman it’s his dad and his new wife who have the big stink fit if we ever need them all in the same place.  I don’t get it!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I say go alone, as well. I’m not in the exact same situation, but similar. My FI’s parents are divorced and don’t get along- we had my parents and his parents come with us as a nice gesture. Worst idea ever. It was super akward, and his mom was completely awful the whole time, complaining about EVERYTHING. Definitely wish we would have just gone alone. It’s not worth it! And theres really no reason they need to be there!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Invite them both. If he’s not mature enough to behave himself and he decides he can’t be in the same room then he can decline.

It’s not like you’re not inviting him – you’re just letting him make his own decision of what is more important. Don’t let him force YOU to pick between them.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Go alone! We had our tasting last night. We had the option to bring other people but we chose to go alone. It was wonderful and I honestly don’t think we would have had as good of a time if we brought other people along.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Dads a jerk

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would jsut tell your dad that he is invited but that your mom will be there and you expect him to be civil towards her and act like an adult. I would probably throw in ‘especially since YOU are the one who left HER’ and storm out, but that probably isn’t the most mature option.

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