Post # 1
Hey everyone, I was wondering if anyone here is self conscious about their tattoo. I got mine a little less than two years ago and it’s been a nightmare for me. I get so many negative comments from complete strangers and its very upsetting. I know I shouldn’t care what people think, but it’s so jarring when someone goes out of their way to insult me. This one particular time, this delivery driver came to my office for me to sign a package at work. When I reached for the device, he saw my tattoo and said, “what’s on your arm?!” I replied that it was a tattoo, to which he stated, “wow, that’s terrible.” He proceeded to question why I got the tattoo while I was so completely shocked and hurt that this complete stranger would go out of his way to be so rude to me. Not gonna lie, I excused myself to the restroom and cried about it. Also, Ive had my coworkers ask why I would let a tattoo artist do this to me- a little backstory, the first tattoo was initially teal. The artist really screwed it up and the lines were uneven and the whole thing needed to be filled in. I got it fixed and re done in black. But it somehow still looks terrible to me. I’m not sure what I should do now. I’ve contemplated getting it removed or designs added to it but I can’t seem to figure out a way to make it less crappy.
I guess I’m asking for real opinions about it. Advice on how to deal with rude people, and how to deal with people who ask why. Here is the tattoo. I’m really nervous about posting it on here, but here it goes.
Post # 2
Based on your description, I was expecting some sort of awful cartoon character gone wrong…and then scrolled down and thought, “WTF are people talking about???” I have seen SO MANY people with similar tattoos– yours looks FINE. And I’m sure you got it for a reason, even if that reason was just “I like the way this looks.” If you change it, change it because you want to, not because some idiot told you it looks bad.
If anyone makes a rude comment about it, either look at them dead in the eye and ask them how they could say such a rude thing to a stranger, or if you really want to stick it to them, tell them it’s in remembrance of your grandma who died of cancer or something. That’ll shut them up!
Post # 3
It’s a little thick(for my taste), but I actually really like the concept of this tattoo. You should learn to love it or get it removed. If that means adding stuff to it, then do it! A tattoo is a personal decision that I’m sure you thought long and hard about and I’m sorry your original vision needed to be convered up (I actually prefer the black!) ANYONE, ESPECIALLY women I feel like get called out for any tattoos that are blatantly not particularly feminine. Like girls with sleeves deal with shit all the time.
Long story short, I like your tattoo. Figure out how you can learn to love it. I would love to see a zoomed out picture of it, this angle is a little weird.
Post # 4
I don’t know why people go out of their way to be mean. Most tattoos aren’t my cup of tea, but I’m certainly not going to insult a total stranger over their tattoo. I like PPs suggestion to make them put their foot in their mouth and tell them that it is to do with a dead relative or something.
Post # 5
As far as people being rude, I don’t think you can stop people from being a**holes. But you can be more confident in yourself and your tattoo… even if that means having something added to it if you don’t like it.
Is there a story behind it or does it mean anything? Usually people are hesitant to be rude about something if it’s got sentimental value. Or at least after the person makes a jackass comment, you can slap them with the meaning and it usually shuts them up. I think people on here will be able to answer better if they know the meaning behind the tattoo.
I am not a tattoo person, but I don’t really care what people do to their own bodies, so tattoos don’t bother me personally. However, even though I’m not a tattoo person (whatever that means), it doesn’t look outlandish or anything. I certainly don’t think it’s ugly. I’ve seen some people with some terrible tattoos, and I wouldn’t qualify yours as ugly or anything. It looks different and unique to me.
Post # 6
I think the problem is that YOU dont like it… I have 3 tattoos (all tributes with great deep meaning) and ive never had a problem them but I was self concious of an old one
if you LOVED your tattoo others opinions would wash over you without you really noticing but unfortunatly as something your aware and sensative of all these comments sting and linger because it feels like a validation of your own worst thoughts
one of my tattoos (which is a tribute to my dead son) was originally a different tattoo that I completely covered, I was alway more aware of that tattoo because I got it on a whim and it meant nothing to me, people asked and I got embarrased that I didnt have anything to say, not even that I ‘just loved it’ it felt more like a worthless blemish than a proud tattoo so I covered it with something that can NEVER be regretted and now I LOVE it, I dont tell strangers the meaning but I can proudly show it (often to gasps of ‘wow I want that’ and unlike the old one no one has actually asked for reasons or details why they just view it as art) and feel no shame when people ask to see it like I did with the old one
your tattoo is strong and bold and an aquired taste but trust me some people LOVE tattoos like yours (its not a ‘meh’ tattoo its a love it or hate it tattoo) so the whole world isnt against this plenty of people would think this is beautiful but you need to change your view of it to see that or change the tattoo to something you can love without approval
Post # 7
I think it looks fine. is there a meaning behind it, or was it just a look you were going for with the band? when people ask about why you got it you can either explain the meaning, or be prepared with a quip like, “it was social experiment to see how rude and inappropriate strangers could be” – then smile.
it could also easily be dressed up with color- flowers, vines, geometric shapes in between the two bands to make look more tribal… there are tons of options, but only do that if it will make you love it. A good cover up artist could help you with a design.
I have a tattoo on my ankle that I hate. I got when I was 18, and it was impulsive and meaningless, and I tell people it is a symbol of my youth and stupidity when they ask about it. I am in the process of having it removed, and let me tell you, that hurts like a mother f*****, but to me it’s worth it. so, that is always an option if you just really don’t like it and can’t imagine any additions that would make you like it.
Post # 8
Why don’t you like it? I think it looks fine! But if you don’t actually like it, yes, you should do something about it. If you don’t like it just because people are asshats, then keep it! I agree with a PP. Not sure why our society has become so mean, why everyone on this earth needs to express every thought in their head. Sometimes I wish we could go back to the 50s when people were polite to each other….
Post # 9
Thanks for the kind words everyone. The tattoo doesn’t have a meaning. But I love the way geometric shapes look on people. My originally intent was for the lines to be cobalt blue, but the original tattoo artist said that blue ink tends to bleed outside the lines (not sure how true this is) so he talked me into getting it in teal. Also the lines were supposed to be swapped. I didn’t realize he had flipped the design until it was too late. So I guess from the beginning it was not at all what I wanted. That part upset me the most because (in my mind) the tattoo is off balance with my arm- the skinnier band should be first since arms taper towards the wrist. That’s how I’ve always seen it done so I feel like I have a botched tattoo, not to mention I can see how the lines aren’t perfectly straight. I’m not sure if that’s a thing I will only notice since I see it all the time, or if it’s noticeable to others as well.
Post # 10
I actually really like simplistic tattoo designs like yours. I am sorry that you are the target of such negetive feedback.
Post # 11
maybe even the lines out and put snapes in the untattoed area? that would be cute! otherwise aphroditejones:
had some great ideas if you are looking to change it up.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
honestly, don’t take what people say about it personal. While it is incredibly rude to say how “awful” someons tattoo is without being provoked, just take it with a grain of salt. Not everyone shares your sense of style, so be it. Plenty of people don’t care for my tattoos or my engagement ring for that matter, but I’m the one who has them for the rest of my life, so as long as I love them, that’s all that matters! If you don’t love yours and want to find a way to enhance them, I would find a very reputable tattoo shop even if it is an hour or two away from you, so that you can get a true professional opinion before you end up in a worse situation. My tattoo artists put the temporary outline on my before the tattoo so that I could verify the design and placement first. If you don’t like the color you may be able to go through a couple removal appointments to just lessen the color and have it colored in blue. I say consult with a very good reputable artist for any changes.
Post # 13
I was expecting a terrible tattoo based on your description and was so surprised when I saw it. I would not classify it as a “bad tattoo” at all.
To hopefully make you feel better, I have a “bad tattoo” gotten done with an ex (I know, the kiss of death for a relationship). We decided to get an “abstract” symbol, which I now have to hide constantly so people don’t ask, “what is that what does it mean?” People are exceptionally rude about tattoos and for some reason see it as their right to make their judgments and opinions known.
For some removal information, if you were wondering, I have been getting mine removed with sessions for once a month for the past year and a half, and it is still there! At $50 a session it makes you wonder if it is really worth the hassle of removing. In your case, I wouldn’t remove it; it is simply a design aesthetic that some people cannot appreciate, but they would likely be rude regardless.
Post # 14
I considered going the removal route too, I’m glad to hear someone else has experience with it. I’ve looked up what it would cost at this tattoo removal place near me. This place has the “most powerful, effective, state of the art laser” out of all the competing companies in my area, and they tout they’re the cheapest too. But they price based on tattoo size, and for a tattoo of my size it would be close to $200 a session, averaging 12 sessions for a complete removal. That is if my tattoo didnt have 2 layers of black ink on top of green ink, which is supposedly the hardest color to remove. So it might not even be possible or just plain crazy expensive unfortunately 🙁
Post # 15
I am not a fan of those tattoos but that’s only because I don’t see a point to them…i don’t judge and wouldn’t go out of my way to say it’s ugly, just not my style…
From my perspective it looks straight, but like you said, I don’t see it all the time to see minor details and what is straight and what’s not. If you aren’t happy with it I would just remove it because nothing like a tattoo should be causing this much stress to someone. If you do like it then who cares what people have to say? It’s YOUR body.