Post # 1
Let me preface this post with this: I do not like my tattoo.
Here’s the story: My bbf and I got matching tattoos several years ago when we were barely of age. Since then, she’s gotten more tattoos. I, on the other hand, have felt like I’ve grown out of it and feel like tattoos are not who I am. While the tattoo does have meaning attached to it, the design, placement, and quality is just bad. It’s on my ankle so I rarely wear dresses or shorts (I only do around those who know about it and when I’m not near my hometown). I’m just sick of it now. I have not told a soul about this – not to my bbf nor my SO.
My SO and I are not engaged yet, but we plan to in the next year (saving money right now). I’m already thinking about what to do about this tattoo come our wedding day! The only people in my family who knows about it is my mom and my sister. Also, only my closest friends know about my tattoo. SO’s grandparents may know about it since we went to the beach together, but they haven’t said anything about it (also I don’t like going to the beach as much because of this thing!) My Future Mother-In-Law does not like tattoos. One time, we were watching this TV show about beaches and tattoos and she made a comment about how tattoos are stupid and wondered why anyone would want one because “you may like it one day and hate it the next”. I had to leave the room to “use the bathroom” to avoid commenting on that!
I do not want my wedding day to be a day where I have to explain my tattoo so I’m definitely going to cover it up. The bff with the same tattoo will most likely be a bridesmaid, but she’ll understand if I cover it up with makeup. However, since I already don’t like it, I’ve been contemplating about about removing it. I love my friend dearly, but I’m going to hurt her if I do follow through with this. I also have NO idea how I would even tell her.
I feel so conflicted. I have not told a single soul about this so I’m not sure what kind of feedback I’ll expect. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone saw my ankles the day of my wedding, so if you are planning on having a long dress you might not have to worry about it.
Post # 4
I don’t have any tattoos, so that may affect my opinion on the subject, but I would think your friend would be understanding if you decided to remove the tattoo that you put on YOUR OWN BODY. Just say something along the lines of, “Obviously it doesn’t mean I care about you any less, I have just decided that tattoos are not for me.”
Post # 5
My twin sister and I have a matching tattoo that we got when we were younger. Very similarly to your story, I continued to get tattoos and love them, while my sister no longer likes them and feels that they aren’t really “her”. It would not offend or hurt me at all if she decided to get our matching tattoo removed- that wouldn’t change the meaning of the tattoo for me at all.
I’m sure your BFF will understand. I would hate to think that my sister would keep a tattoo she doesn’t like simply because she was afraid of hurting my feeligs.
On a different note, though, if you’ll be wearing a long wedding dress, nobody will see your ankles, so I don’t think you need to worry about it on your wedding day. If you hate it so much that you want to avoid going to the beach and wearing certain clothing, then I would look in to getting it removed.
Post # 6
I think I still need to cover it up since it’s right below my ankle and tends to sometimes peak out even when I wear pants. That’s how some people found out about it! Since then I make an extra effort to wear pants that are a bit longer and socks when I’m around SO’s parents.
Is anyone in the same boat? Dealing with a tattoo you don’t like? I think I would have tried to get rid of it years ago if it wasn’t for my bff..
Post # 7
@DecemberBride: Thanks! That is very encouraging. I just need to work up the gusto to tell her this…don’t think I’m ready for it yet!
Post # 8
Yeah, I honestly think your friend will be fine about it, especially if it’s restricting you so much. Surely your dress will cover it?
And there are two threads I’m thinking of right now, one about the Kat Von Dee make-up that covers tattoos, there’s lots of reviews on that thread, and there’s another one of this girl who is getting tattoo removal and showing pictures along the way, you should check it out, it’s very informative.
Out of interest, is your tattoo coloured or just black? It is easier to remove certain colours. Good luck!
Edit : And I’ve got tattoos that I like, if it helps to have opinions from tattooed and non-tattoes people 🙂
Post # 9
Your body. Your choice. Your decision. I can’t even understand why a FRIEND would be anything but supportive.
Post # 10
If you really hate it that much and want it removed, your friend will understand. If cost of removal is an issue, try to look at the tattoo as a part of the history of your life. It’s something that meant a lot to you at one point, try not to regret it.
For the wedding if you still have it, you could easily have it covered with makeup.
Post # 11
@Mrs.SleepyKitty: Thanks, those posts were very helpful. My tattoo is black; I’ve heard black is the easiest to remove.
Post # 12
@masqueradestars: if you hate it, remove it. but it isn’t cheap, quick, or painless. Depending on the size and color of the tattoo you’re looking at thousands of dollars and at least 8 painful treatments 8 weeks apart. Otherwise I suggest you cover it up–but I wouldn’t do so to cater to other people’s opinions—why should you feel bad about explaining your tattoo to people if they’re rude enough to ask? Why would they even see it if you’re wearing a normal length dress?
I’m currently getting my black tattoo removed–it’s my exhusbands name-almost a year later, after 6 treatments at $200 a pop and it’s halfway gone–it will be at least another $1200 to remove–for something like an ex’s name that’s understandable, for something that mildly bothers you it might not be worth it