(Closed) Tattoo predicament

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I cover my tattoos to make my mother happy?
    Yes, she is paying and you should respect her wishes : (3 votes)
    9 %
    No, it is your day and people should accept you for you tattoos and all : (32 votes)
    91 %
  • Post # 4
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    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    PS. I love tattoos and think you should post pictures of yours ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I would explain to her that you and your tats are a package deal, and it just wouldn’t be *YOU* if you covered them up for one of the most important days of your life. I don’t have any tatoos personally, but the people I know that do love them like they’re a natural part of their skin and have been there forever, so it would be weird to cover them on a day that is all about you (and your FI).

    Be gentle, but firm. It’s nice that your mom is paying, and you should respect her opinion..that doesn’t mean you have to always use every suggestion or follow every request.

    Post # 6
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Honestly, as someone who loves my tattoos as well, I would totally show them. Mine are all covered by my dress as I find myself wishing that they showed. It’s sounds like they are a large part of who you are, and you don’t want to look like anyone but yourself on your wedding day.

    You’re probably going to get a ton of “If she’s paying for it….” responses, but I say be yourself. If there is one thing a bride should have complete control over no matter who is paying, it’s what she looks like.

    Post # 7
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    When your parents pay, there is a certain amount of compromise that you have to be willing to make…but this isn’t one of those things I think she has a right to ask. By compromise, I think that means taking into account parents’ wishes for the guest list, budget and venue… not your tattoos. That’s kind of over-the-top of her to ask.

    Post # 8
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Brides (and grooms) flaunt their tattoos all the time when they get married. The tattoo is part of who you are and you should not be chanigng that to suit other people on YOUR wedding day. If they can’t accept all of you, no matter who they are, then that’s their issue to deal with themselves. If it upsets your mother that much, have the pictures she orders be photoshopped. But definitely do NOT cover them just to please others because you will end up with regrets and you only get one wedding day.

    Since you are not able to see eye to eye with your mother, thank her for her generosity in paying. Then have a wedding you can afford yourselves, even if that means scaling back, so that you and your fiance are able to make the decisions. The bride and groom have the final say since the parents are already married. Otherwise there is no point in having a wedding if the couple isn’t allowed to decide anything for themselves that is important to them.

    Post # 9
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    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think bolero during ceremony and tattoos during the reception (with most of the pictures the way you want, but a few her way) seems like a good compromise.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Are you getting married in a church? If so (or even if not), perhaps a good compromise would be to wear a bolero for the ceremony and have it off for the reception?

    Post # 12
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    2007 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think I would do what pharmy suggested, explain that they’re a part of you but that if she’s still really uncomfortable with them maybe wear a bolero for the ceremony and then ditch it for the reception and majority of the pictures.

    I’m all about making the day your own but I also think you have to respect who’s putting up the money for it.  I think there’s definitely room for a good compromise here.

    Post # 13
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    If it was just one small tattoo on your shoulder or something I would say cover it up and avoid the drama.  But it seems like these tattoos are a large part of who you and your Fiance are.  And in that case I don’t think you should have to cover them any more than you should have to dye your hair to suit your mother’s preferences or anything like that.

    Post # 14
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    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think if your mother is knowingly funding a wedding between two people who love tattoos and the wedding’s entire theme is “tattoos”, she shouldn’t be surprised that you aren’t planning on covering yours up ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck!

    Post # 15
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    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think you should go to the shop and try on some boleros with your veil, etc. Take pictures and show your mom that it would look like too much with your veil.

    Personally I don’t think you should cover them up because they are part of who you are ๐Ÿ™‚ I think it’s silly that your mom wants to “erase” them for one day.

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