- 6 years ago
Let me get this started by saying I’m not one of those Bridezilla-y crazy people who has a bunch of rules and regulations for my BMs. I’ve been pretty lenient with them. I chose the color of their dresses, but I let them pick the style. I told them I wanted them to wear gold shoes because they’re easy to find. I don’t care what style they are. Other than that, I don’t care. Hair, makeup, and accessories are 100% up to them.
When I asked one of my BMs to be in the wedding, she had a single butterfly tattoo on her shoulder. I knew about it and it was fine. Around October (after she knew she’d be in the wedding), she went and got another tattoo on her shoulder. This new one is HORRIBLE. It is a flower with these huge circle patterns all around it (it looks like a bunch of snails). When I first saw it, I didn’t know what it was. She had to point out the flower to me. My first response (and many other of her friends’ response) was, “Is that a snail?” The guy who did the tattoo was drunk (it was done at one of those “tattoo parties” at someone’s house). Instead of putting the flower in front of the butterfly (as if the butterfly was resting on the flower), he put it behind the butterfly. He also did a poor job with color and the whole thing is a murky gray color.
My Bridesmaid or Best Man has asked me what I think of her tattoo multiple times, and I’ve always told her the truth… I don’t like it (I don’t think anyone has said they liked it… she even hates it). It looks very, very bad. I’d be horrified if that image was stuck on my body for the rest of my life. The other night we got onto the topic of how it is going to look at the wedding. I expressed that I wasn’t thrilled about the tattoo/how it will appear in photos. After I said that, she kind of acted distant/touchy. I wasn’t trying to be mean or bitchy. She wanted honesty and I provided it. If you guys saw this thing, you’d understand.
So, last night BM texts to tell me that she’s going to have her tattoo touched up. I’m thinking that, for sure, this time she’s going to a REAL tattoo parlor and they’ll try to salvage her shoulder. Instead, she went back to the same ol’ guy. I haven’t seen the tattoo since it’s been “touched up”, but apparently she decided she was going to get another one last night… three big, ugly stars dead smack on the top of her other shoulder.
Her whole back now looks like a kindergartener got ahold of some magic makers and went to town. I really feel like she went and got this latest tat to spite me. I mean, perhaps that’s a silly thought… that someone would make a permanent addition to their body just to piss another person off… but that’s how I feel. Either that, or she’s just really not that smart when she drinks. Why would you go back to someone who did such a horrible job on you last time?
My question is, should I ask her to cover the tattoos (with that tattoo makeup stuff), or leave her alone about it? Don’t get me wrong, I am NOT anti-tattoo, whatsoever. My other two BMs have tattoos on their backs/shoulders that I love because they were professionally done. But, I’m thinking about asking them all to cover them just because of this one Bridesmaid or Best Man. I wasn’t even going to ask them to cover their tattoos in the first place, even after Bridesmaid or Best Man got the horrible flower thing done. I made peace with that. But, I just feel like these stars have taken it too far. I hope I’m not sounding crazy right now 🙁