Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Gables at Chadds Ford
My Maid/Matron of Honor has a huge chest piece tattoo and my Mother-In-Law and SIL think it is tacky and that she should get it covered for the wedding. Personally, I don’t love her tattoo, but it also doesn’t bother me at all. I have a small tattoo I will be trying to cover for the wedding, but only because I don’t like it. Personally, I have never been to a makeup artist that did a great cover up on it nor have any of the products made for tattoos worked well either. I think if we even attempted to tattoo my MOH’s tattoo it would just look worse than the tattoo itself and I don’t want to hurt her feelings over something that only my Mother-In-Law and SIL are concerned about. Also, our wedding will not be held at a church and it is not going to be a very formal event. Anyone else have experience with a similar issue? Did you or your bridesmaids cover or not cover your tattoos? How did the pictures turn out? I don’t want to upset my Future Mother-In-Law, but I honestly think letting her tattoo show will add a fun element to our bridal party 😛
Post # 3
@reynaweddingbee: One of my bridesmaids is covered in tattoos, full chest piece and two full sleeves. She asked me if I wanted her to cover her tattoos, and I told her absolutely not. IMHO, tattoos are part of who a person is, an extension of their personality.
As you said, if you asked her to cover it up, it would probably not turn out well. Your Mother-In-Law and SIL may not like her tattoo, but chances are, they won’t see pictures of your bridal party on a daily basis, so they don’t get a vote.
I say let your Maid/Matron of Honor rock her tattoo. Chances are, no one will be paying attention to it anyways 😉
Post # 4
I would definately let your Maid/Matron of Honor keep the tattoo. She had it when you asked and it’s a part of her. And it actually sounds like you kinda like it or at least it won’t bother you. It is SO not your Future Sister-In-Law or FMILs place to try to dictate what your Maid/Matron of Honor does. Do not cave. They need to mind their own buisness.
Post # 5
@thatredheadedbride: “IMHO, tattoos are part of who a person is, an extension of their personality.” <THIS. Agree 100%!
Let your Maid/Matron of Honor wear her tattoo proudly! You clearly love her for who she is, tattoos and all. And isn’t that what matters? :)Your pictures will be beautiful, because you will be surrounded by love and people who mean so much to you!
Post # 6
Are your Mother-In-Law and SIL the ones getting married? No? Then it’s not their business.
And the bridal party doesn’t tend to be in the family photos, so it doesn’t affect them anyway.
Post # 7
It’s none of their business. This is between you and your MoH. If you want it covered up, I’d ask her to do it in a respectful way. However, I fully believe that tattoos are a beautiful form of expression and art, and I personally would never ask someone to cover up their tattoo, even if I didn’t like it.
I think just let her show it to the world. I really don’t think anybody is going to be paying attention to her tattoo.
Post # 8
I really dislike tattos myself but I would never ask anyone to cover them up. Your Mother-In-Law and SIL will just have to let it boil over. If they keep bringing it up I would ignore it and change the subject.
Post # 9
I’m a tattoo disliking MOB. ALL of my girls have at least one – their body, not mine and that is ok. That being said, tell your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law to zip it. Thank them for their input but tell them the tattoo topic is closed and you will not be asking her to cover it. Good for you by the way. Tattoos are part of the person. You ask the person, you ask the tattoo.
Post # 10
My bridesmaid is covered in tattoos. My mom doesn’t like them (tattoos in general, not hers specifically). Her first reaction was to ask me if I’d asked my friend to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man yet. I’m guessing if I had asid no my mom would have told me not to ask her. That really would not have gone over well with me so I’m glad I’d already asked her. My parents are paying for our wedding so unfortunately I don’t feel like I can tell my mom to deal with the tattoos. The solution is that my mom is going to pay for jacket/shrug type things to be made. That (in combination with the fact that the dresses are floor length) will cover most of her tattoos. She also has a large chest piece that is going to be mostly visible so my mom is just going to have to deal with that.
My friend’s tattoos are a part of her. I’ve seen pictures of her without them and it odd for me because I’ve never known her any other way.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t ask anyone to cover their tattoos, personally when people tell me that I should cover my tattoos for my wedding it kinda irritates me. I tell them that I would never consider covering my tattoos because like its been said, they are a part of who I am and I am not ashamed of them.
Post # 12
It is absolutely none of your Future Mother-In-Law or SIL’s business. It’s your wedding, and she’s your friend and you asked her to be Maid/Matron of Honor knowing she had tats. The Maid/Matron of Honor and bridal party pictures are probably the least likely photos to be featured at your IL’s home, so let her show the tats. It’s your and your FH’s day!
Post # 13
I’m not a tattoo lover (though I do think some people can pull them off really well!). I wouldn’t love a giant tattoo on my bridesmaid, but at the same time I would never ask her to cover it! I think thats really insulting.
Post # 14
I would say just leave it. Tattoos are pretty personal and if it doesn’t bother you then it doesn’t matter if it bothers anyone else.
Post # 16
It’s your wedding, therefore your say! I don’t have any tatts but I do have scarring on both arms. If anyone asked me to be in their wedding on the condition that I cover the scars I’d probably be annoyed (I’m not even covering them for my own wedding). I think your Mother-In-Law and SIL will get over it.