Post # 17
I would never tell someone to hide their tattoo. It’s pretty much who they are and their choice if they want to cover it up or not. I’d tell your opposing family to get over it because it so far from their choice.
Post # 18
If it doesn’t bother you then leave it. It is your wedding and no one should tell you otherwise. I have two bridesmaids that have tattoos, I personally love each one, one girl has her whole back done and honestly it is a beautiful piece of art! Im sure people will think it is tacky but as I said on your wedding day it is only what matters to you 🙂
Post # 19
Let her wear her tattoo with pride. You seem cool with it and that is great.
Are you having a photographer? A good photographer will be able to edit the tattoo out so Mother-In-Law, SIL, Nanna and whoever else can have a photo that will last forever with the Maid/Matron of Honor but without her tattoo 🙂
Post # 20
I personally love tattoos and find them a great form of expressing and as for the cover up as long as its not offensive to anyone which it probably isn’t then let her rock it.
Post # 21
Don’t ask her to cover up. Also, that is none of your Future Mother-In-Law and FSIL’s business, as PPs have said!
Post # 22
My Maid/Matron of Honor has a chest piece and half sleeve and I love them and would never ask her tcombover them up. I love how it looked in pics cuz that is her and I love her tattoos and all. I’d feel weird looking at those pics and her tattoos weren’t there it would feel like something is missing.
Post # 23
@reynaweddingbee: Would you prefer the tattoo not be showing? Just for purposes of playing devil’s advocate here, if your friend was very large breasted, that would certainly be “part of her” and have existed prior to you asking her to be a bridesmaid, but it also doesn’t mean you want her boobs displayed and taking away from the whole aesthetic. If it were me, and I were leaning on the side of her covering up, I would have a conversation with her and maybe couch it by saying that it’s mostly MOB and SIL with the issue, but at least you two could talk about it! Alternatively, you could just select a dress that will not show the tattoo.
I think it’s important to make sure that you are getting what you need out of this. If you are a tattoo loving person who wants a rockabilly tatted wedding: cool. If you aren’t and you’d rather her tat be disguised, at least for the ceremony and pictures, you shouldn’t be afraid to speak up. It is YOUR wedding after all. And presumably your friend cares about you.
Post # 24
I think attitudes towards tattoos have really changed in younger generations. I have one small tattoo on my upper back that I got in memory of my dad (cancer ribbon with the year he died on it). I know girls who have loads of them! And they look fantastic. Its your day not their day!
Post # 25
Definitely don’t ask her to cover it up. A couple people have asked about my sister’s back piece, and another bridesmaids’ back piece AND scarification (google it) and I told them no way was I going to ask that they cover it up. I can’t say I’m a fan of any of it, but it’s part of who they are and their self-expression. It would probably really hurt their feelings if I asked them. I always think any bride that asks is a bridezilla.
Post # 26
Did you already get Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses? You could go with a dress that covers it if it’s that big of a deal
Post # 27
@drlolaz: none of this makes any sense at all.
why would she have a conversation and then blatantly point out that it’s not her own wishes but instead her SIL and Mothers??? she’s better not to have a conversation like that unless she herself doesn’t want the tattoos showing.
and third…. Just because someone chooses to let their bridesmaid show a tattoo doesn’t make it a rockabilly wedding! mine wasn’t a “rockabilly” wedding but my Maid/Matron of Honor showed her tats proudly – Oh and she’s also big breasted and some of her boobs did show… actually 3 of my bridesmaids were big breasted and had lots of cleavage…. it didn’t make anything look worse asthetic wise.
Post # 28
@paula1248: Are your Mother-In-Law and SIL the ones getting married? No? Then it’s not their business.
This! They need to be quiet. Your getting married. If it doesn’t bother you they need to stay out of it. You picked her for a reason.
Post # 29
@RockStar33: I’m glad you had a wedding that suited your taste and needs. I suggest that if the OP would prefer the tattoo or tits or whatever else not be displayed at her wedding, has a right to express this to others. Especially if said others are presumably people who care about her. If she was feeling hesitant about bringing it up, “couching” it would shift some of the blame, but open the topic for conversation. If she had complete conviction one way or another, I doubt she would have posted to the forum.
Post # 30
People shouldn’t judge other. Point blank. If these are your friends and your wedding and your and your Fi decision then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
Post # 31
One of my bm has a full sleeve and we are getting married in church and I’m not asking her to cover up. I’m sure many members of family won’t be pleased but I don’t care. I don’t think your mom or sil have the right to dictate anyone appearance.