(Closed) tattoos, FI says no

posted 5 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: should i get the tattoo?
    yes, he'll get over it : (29 votes)
    45 %
    no : (28 votes)
    44 %
    other? explain below : (7 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would explain to him why you want what you want. I deffinitly wouldnt do it without him knowing. I got one when my FI wasnt fond over the idea, and even tho he got over it, he still sometimes throws it in my face. just lay it out on the table that this has soooo much meaning, its nothing tacky, and its something you realllly want.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2032 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    DH1 hated tattoos…he thought they looked ‘trashy’ on women.  BUT, he knew that the 2 I have now (got 1 when we FIRST started dating and the other shortly before he died) were meaningful so we talked and compromised a bit.  As it happens, he didn’t like them anywhere that couldn’t be covered by clothing (like the wrist) and a few other spots he didn’t care for.  However, he didn’t mind them on my back for whatever reason…so that’s where they are.  And I’m glad I didn’t do it on my wrist or ankle, because my hair and/or clothing cover them up if I need to.  

    I wouldn’t get it if he was completely against it, but I’d see if you could reach a compromise first.  Explain WHY you want it, and go from there.  

    Post # 5
    Member
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    He will get over it. He’s your fiance!

    Post # 7
    Member
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I say it’s your body and you should do what makes you happy.  Of course, I might be biased, because I love tattoos!  I have my kids’ names across my wrists. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    3476 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Do you know WHY he hates them so much? Honestly, if it’s a deeply rooted belief then he probably wont just “get over it”.  

    I have a lot of tattoos, as does my FI, and we both like them, but once I mentioned wanting to get a simple henna style tattoo on my hand like these:

     

    Bnd he was completely against it.  He apparently HATES hand and face tattoos (I agree about the face) because they look trashy to him, and you don’t have the option to share them or not– they’re just there.  I wouldn’t get it without at least consulting with him and explaining why it’s important to you, and understanding why he’s so against it. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

     “fine get it and when your parents see it ill say i had nothng to do with it” or ” get it but i dont like it”

    Hes approving!!!! but he will get over it, as long as its not a deal breaker..

    Post # 13
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    37 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d think of something you love about him physically. Now pretend that he decided to change it… forever. How would you feel? Would you get over it probably, but how would you feel in the long run. Would it be a constant reminder that he chose not to consider your feelings or do you think you would see that he likes it and be okay with it.
    Now think about how HE typically handles things like this… do you think he would build negative or positive emotions over time.
    I’d also think about how long you’ve been thinking about getting a tat, maybe give him the same amount of time to think about it. If you’ve been thinking about it for a year and want him to have a fully formed opinion in a month or so he may not have one.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It’s your body. Do what you want.

    Post # 16
    Member
    10368 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It is your body. Not his. He doesn’t own you – do what you want!

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