(Closed) TATTOOS: IS SPOUSAL APPROVAL NECESSARY??

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Lana_Rose:  I see you saying that tattoos are  a part of yourself and you want him to accept that and love you the same.  Just remember, that tattoos might be part of your identity but they aren’t your whole identity.  Your husband is part of your identity, too.  A more important part, IMO.

Post # 48
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Lana_Rose:  Fiance and I both are fairly tattooed, and both planning for more. I would not require his approval to get another one, nor would he mine. We talked about our likes and dislikes for tattoo locations a few times, and tend to agree on all of them. 

If he randomly decided he didn’t like a tattoo I was planning, he would need to come up with a pretty good explination as to why.. and it would need to make logical sense. Haha.

Post # 50
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2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@Lana_Rose:  I’ll be blunt: Hell no. It’s my body, and I do what I please. I could understand if it was your first and he didn’t like tattoos, but you both already have them, he knew you wanted more, and his parents already know you have them and know you for you. It’s stupid that he’s suddenly worried about it. If my parents were so judgmental that they suddenly didn’t like my caring spouse because they have some art on their chest, I’d tell them to f**k off. 

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Lana_Rose:  So he says no more tattoos anywhere on your body ever again?

Post # 53
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2838 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Lana_Rose:  Maybe next step is to tell him you have plans for the sleeve and see how he responds to it in the middle of all this.

Post # 56
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2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@Lana_Rose:  My dad made me promise “no more” after every single tattoo I’ve gotten. He still loves me even though I’ve gotten more. I’m sure they won’t stop loving you or respecting you. They’ll deal with it eventually. 

Post # 57
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3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I fully believe “my body, my decision.” That being said, however, my husband IS my tattoo artist so if it’s something he thinks is stupid, he won’t tattoo me.

Post # 58
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782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Lana_Rose:  personally,  I don’t think this is tough. 

It’s your body,  you can tattoo or pierce it as you wish. 

If it is offensive, I would take a step back though. 

Is he gonna a leave you if you get a chest piece? If your answer is no,  then go get the tattoo. If he is gonna leave you,  go get it anyway because he’s probably not good for you. 

As long as the judgement from his family doesn’t bother you,  then you’re golden. Do what ya want 🙂 

Post # 59
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2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not in my opinion. I did not even think to consult with FH before getting my last tattoo.

Post # 60
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2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No. You absolutely don’t need his approval, which is good bc it sounds like you aren’t going to get it.

His reasoning behind not wanting it may be what you deem to be ridiculous, but it’s still how he feels. If he’s going with you and not “forbidding it”, and you’re still not happy with that, then it sounds like the real issue is you want him to be happy about it, and he isn’t.  I don’t think there’s a way around that, so you need to decidewhat is more important: getting the tattoo, or him being hapy about it.

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Lana_Rose:  I kind of have this situation, but I’m in your husband’s position.  I do not like tattoos, have never liked them.  Ever.  That being said, when my Boyfriend or Best Friend, now Darling Husband, went to get a tattoo, I was there, supporting him through it (we hadn’t been dating long and I understood it was not my place to say anything to him.  I told him I wasn’t a fan, but I still held his hand through it).

Now, its 6 years later.  We’re married.  I would not be pleased at all if he went out and did it.  He’s mentioned getting one again, but I just find it unattractive.  Not to mention expensive, and we have many other things to spend our money on.

If he went out and got one tomorrow, I certainly wouldn’t divorce him or anything over it, but I know that I would not like it.  How that would ultimately affect our relationship, I don’t know.

@Schatzie821:  yup.

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