Post # 1
Recently me and my SO had a heart-to-heart over lunch about our timeline for engagement, then went ring shopping afterward. Both were great successes and put me at ease. He said that a proposal would happen within 8 months or less (we’ve been together 2 years and he brings up marriage and kids all the time), so now I am patiently waiting.
I was actually shocked that he had an exact answer when I asked, which shows me that he has been thinking about it. So ever since I’ve been wondering “What made him choose 8 months or less?” I can think of a few pretty good reasons…
1) We moved in together in May and agreed that we would be engaged within a year. (It was more like me telling him that I did not want to live with him for over a year without a ring.)
2) He has said several times in the past that he would be ready to get engaged once finished with school. He was originally graduating in December 2011, but took a semester off which pushed his graduation to March 2012.
3) His closest cousin who is like a brother to him is getting married in DR next July and he is the best man. I think he wants to get engaged before the wedding.
4) Tax return!!! I really think he is counting on his 2011 tax return to pay for my ring!
All of these reasons are plausible, but I really think the last one is it! See, my bf is not the plan ahead type. He’ll plan a week ahead for a trip or something, but I don’t see him saving a certain amount from each paycheck over months to make a big purchase. I am the saver in the relationship. Not to mention he is a procrastinator, so it would work perfectly that he will get his tax return right around the time he should be buying the ring and “planning” the proposal.
A few other things that make me believe this…he used last year’s tax return to buy a new car, I know he’d rather pay cash than finance a ring, when we went ring shopping he kept telling me he doesn’t care about price (and I know he’s not rich), and we have enough in our joint savings for him to get me a nice ring but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want me to notice when he makes the purchase.
This makes me chuckle. Anyone else’s SO use his tax return to get your ring?
Post # 3
@Reign14: sounds exactly like my SO lol. even thought we have set a date on when we want to get married and we are planning, i am still waiting for tax season wo i can get my ring. like you i am the saver in the relationnship and we do live together and he pays most of te bill himself. but i wouldnt have it anyother way because this way he doesnthave to keep paying off a fincanced ring and i feel like he is being smart about it. also because itax season is close to our anniversay and i would love for him to ask me on that day ***fingers crossed** 🙂
Post # 4
My ring is a tax return ring 🙂 I asked Darling Husband how he hid the money from me, since I kept control of all of our finances and he said he just had extra taken out of his check each week so he could use it for the ring. He said the federal gov’t was his secret hiding spot LOL.
Post # 5
@FEFE215: I think it is smart too! It’s funny because I am always yelling at SO to not wait until the last minute for everything, but in this case it makes sense.
More guys should do this! That way they don’t have to worry about coming up with the money between paying bills, and they can hide the purchase easier from their gf. I read about so many people in finanacial binds, this may be the perfect solution (assuming there are not more pressing bills to be paid with that money).
If tax season is right around your anniversary then there’s a very good chance it will happen then! That would be awesome. I hope it works out that way for you!
Post # 6
I’m pretty sure my ring was a tax return ring as well 🙂 I was wondering why he wasn’t getting the new laptop he so desperately needs for grad school with it, and now I know why lol. I want to get him an “engagement Mac” now hehe
Post # 7
This sounds like awesome progress. Congrats. Gotta love tax returns. Our tax return is how we are paying for a lot of our wedding!!!
Post # 9
@mwitter80: That’s even smarter that he designated a certain amount to be taken out of his check. Shows he really put though into how to really surprise you. Nice!
I have to be honest I don’t know how the amount taken out of my check by the gov’t is determined (other than the whole tax bracket thing). I just know I get a nice lump sum back! I’m prety sure my SO is the same. Lol
Post # 10
@sarahbabs: Awww sweet of him to sacrifice and put your needs first. An engagement Mac sounds like a great idea. I’m sure he’d love it!
Post # 11
Gotta love tax returns! That way you won’t notice a large amount taken out of your account plus no financing 🙂 Yay!!!
Post # 12
if what SO has been saying is true, I think my love is also waiting for this. I think by April 2012 I’ll be an Almost-Mrs.SO <3
Post # 13
@organizedbride11: Thanks! Yes, it’s definitely great progress. Tax returns are really good for saving money. Even though people say it’s giving the gov’t an interest-free loan it’s money we probably otherwise would have spent!
I can see us using our future returns to go toward the wedding. Haha
Post # 14
I just thought about the fact that my bf always files his taxes early and receives his return in January (unlike me who ususally waits till April)….so maybe he’ll have the ring in time for V-day! That’d be awesome <3
Post # 15
LOL my first one was! Well, most of it anyway…his tax return didn’t cover the ENTIRE cost so while we got engaged on Valentine’s Day (2003) I didn’t have the ring until around May when he finished paying it off hehehe. In my case, I still spoiled the surprise, since he had his taxes direct deposited into our joint checking account and he put the main chunk of the down payment on it with his debit card AND I worked in the credit union where we had our account…I have no idea why he thought I wouldn’t know hahaha! Oh well, nothing wrong with that…and you’ll have your ring interest free
Post # 16
I have a tax return ring.