(Closed) Taxes suck… never been so pissed at FI before in my life!

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


I’m sorry you’re going through this! Perhaps you can see if your photographer will work out a payment plan? Or perhaps you can find a temporary part time job to pay for the photographer? 

I can relate with your Fiance issues, mine always thinks he knows what he’s doing until shit hits the fan and my future Mother-In-Law makes a ton of $ and would never think of helping her son out in any way, but she didn’t raise him so it’s not surprising. 

Post # 4
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Isn’t there something else you could cancel – maybe the DJ and make a playlist on your iPod? Scale down on flowers? Any other DIY projects that could save you some cash?

Post # 5
13249 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wait a second, you posted yesterday that you were going to have your wedding paid off in April for your July wedding, aka, two-to-three months early (see thread here).  What changed in the last 24 hours?

Also, it sounds like your Fiance was really foolish and should have talked to his boss.  You owe the money, and you’ll have to pay it. Perhaps he filled out the W4 wrong and didn’t have them taking the appropriate deductions out.


Post # 6
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsWinTraining2014:  It’s a bummer about the photographer, and I’m sure you would have budgeted differently had you known you would have $889 less in the first place.

But way more importantly than the wedding, have you guys talked about how you’re going to handle these things during the marriage? If he isn’t communicating financially with you now, and he isn’t being honest about his financial decisions even when you explicitly ask him, that’s not a great sign. That his financially responsible mother isn’t jumping in to help suggests that this might be an old pattern of behavior for him- most parents would jump to help a kid who messed up once, less so if they do it over and over expecting to be bailed out by mom.

I would be less concerned about the photos of the wedding and more concerned about the surprise tax (and who knows what other) bills you could be in for every spring if you don’t hammer this out before signing up to be liable for his debts.

Post # 7
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Bubblesmcgee: +1. Communication seems to be a big issue here, rather than money itself.

Post # 8
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If he made under 19000, doesn’t he qualify for an EIC credit? I would look into that!

Post # 11
1407 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsWinTraining2014:  But you have a few months to save up… I know you were going to use that money for a honeymoon, but I would think photos that last forever would be more important.   Also, it’s not his mom’s job to bail him out or pay for your wedding, but I am sure you know that.  Why did you text her? 

Post # 12
1797 posts
Buzzing bee

It could be an honest mistake. Sometimes those W2 forms can be hard if you aren’t familiar with how to fill them out and your employer doesn’t know either. I had a boss tell me to put myself down as a dependent when filling it out once, and I ended up owing like $600 at the end of the year because my parents were still claiming me.

Post # 14
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsWinTraining2014:  ah, that sucks. It is 19 if you file jointly and are married… I say you rework your budget (maybe honeymoon?).  Try to work some overtime or find odd jobs for a few weekends.

Post # 15
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MrsWinTraining2014:  I’m really sorry. That was completely irresponsible for your Fiance to wait 11 months to file the paperwork – it was also completely unfair to you that he waited so long because of the potential to screw up both your finances. I wish I had some sort of advice other than seeing if you have any friends who take nice pictures.

@abbie017:  It wasn’t that the paperwork was filled out wrong, it was the fact that he filed the paperwork in December instead of January. By my reading of the OP, he filed it 11 months after he should have. I could be wrong about that though.

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