(Closed) Tea and Sympathy…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8109 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010


What you describe really sounds like depression–the lack of motivation in particular.


I am sorry for the loss of your grandmother.  


So, yes, I am going to tell you to see somebody.  You can go see your regular doctor for starters.  He or she can give you a referral if need be and make sure there is nothing physical going on that would contribute to the depression, like hormones being off or something.


The good news is, depression is treatable.  I’ve been diagnosed with major clinical depression, severe (along with generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder), so I understand the feelings of overwhelm and lack of motivation.  This treatable.  You don’t have to suffer.


Post # 5
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am so Sorry to hear about your grandmothers passing… 🙁

It is very tough to have someone dear gone, especially when they suffered from dementia. My grandfather had it and it was very painful losing him years before he died as he wasnt himself anymore. His “clear” moments became fewer and fewer, sometimes he didnt Even recognise me or other Family members. 

It seems like your Gran passed away unexpected, you are possibly still in a shock State and Need to get your Head arround. It Takes Time to realise someone is really, really “gone”. 🙁

It’s understandable that you arent able to Talk about her Death to others Just yet. It Takes Time to digest and come to terms with it first. Give yourself some Time to grieve, it is perfectly normal to feel Down after losing someone dear. 

As lame as it might sound, it gets better with Time… 

Post # 7
12005 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Flanders:  firstly – so sorry for your loss.  ((HUGS)) I agree with PP’s, it sounds like depression.  It is toally treatable and completely common in a situation like this.  I can’t imagine how you feel right now.  Chat with your MD and see what s/he has to say.  Hopefully they can offer you some advice.


I never know what to say to people when someone close to them passes, it’s always awkward, no one can undersand the relationship between 2 people except those 2 people – that’s why you get so many generic ‘I’m sorrys’ people don’t know what to say.   I hope things get a little brighter for you – I also think you should stick up for your grandma and give her the celebration you know she would want.

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