(Closed) Teacher Bees- Facebook and students?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance is a high school Math Teacher and his rule of thumb is that he will not accept friend requests from students until they graduate. Even once they graduate, he is very selective. We are both very active in 4-H and community events so we will accept friend requests from our campers that we’ve counseled but not if they are still of age to be at camp.

Also, Fiance and I are very careful about what we have on our profiles. I keep mine very strict and secure since I work for the Federal Government but you just have to be careful what goes on the wall and in your photos.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I know the district policy where I went to HS was that NO students/teacher friending on FB till after graduation. That is unless you were related, which in my HS wasn’t uncommon. My Future Mother-In-Law is a teacher and has the same policy, she will friend someone when they are graduated and an adult, not one of her students anymore. I know the day after graduation there was a mad rush on a couple of everyone’s favorite teachers FB pages but none before then. It make sure there is no appearance of impropiety. In this day and age, teachers have to cover their own butts as much as possible. Not at my HS but another local one, a student, who was friends on FB with a male teacher, claimed he sent her inappropriate things on there, turns out it was false but he still had all that publicity that he won’t recover from. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think having a separate page for students to interact with you on a teacher/student level is great! Reminders about projects…they can ask questions….their parents can communicate with you as well. Technology is a great support system for students

 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m from the maritimes in Canada, and here…. being facebook friends with students is a HUGE no no. It could actually get you in a lot of trouble by your administrators. I even went as far as blocking my page so that I’m invisible unless you’re my friend, so that students can’t even find me. I teach Jr. High school students and I’m a young teacher myself at 24., so I wouldn’t feel comfortable any other way. I also don’t think creating a page just for students is necessary. We have great conversations in class, and they know everything they need to know.

After you finish teaching them, or when they’ve left the school maybe…but while you’re teaching them I have the firm belief that this is completely unecessary.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m just finishing my student teaching right now, but I’ve been in the same classroom for the whole school year and feel uncomfortable with this issue as well. My master teacher (and also, a friend) has told me that she’s FB friends with former students who have graduated and are at least 18 years old. Other than that, she denys requests and sends a quick message about keeping the separation between school and personal life but that if they ever did want to email her, they could at her school’s email addy.

I think that I feel the same way. I had a student last month tell me that she was really confused and upset about an assignment that I had given her and had seriously thought about sending me a FB message asking for help, but had thought it might be awkward. My students have my email address and I’ve got it forwarded to my personal email addy to let me know when they’ve sent something. Being online friends with students before they’ve graduated and are underage isn’t something I’m comfortable with…however, once they are no longer here and it’s their decision to send the request, then I’ll be fine with it.

Hope this helps!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

@brideatbeach: Exactly. Fiance is an education major, going to be a HS math teacher, soon hopefully, and I know, he IS NOT adding his students. Of course, the teacher everyone loved and added on FB is totally NOT proffesional on his page, but he is the kind of person whose random, somewhat intoxicated deep discussions are why everyone loved him. But not intoxicated as a teacher, just online…

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@brideatbeach: i’m shocked that you have teachers in your school that are fb friends with their students! around here that would NEVER fly. as far as communicating with students, that’s what class websites and email are for. my father and Fiance both teach and neither of them are fb friends with students. even as a nanny, i have gotten friend requests from kids i used to take care of who are now old enough to have fb accounts (at least their parents think they’re old enough, michelle obama & i would disagree, but to each their own), and i won’t accept them. they know they can always send me msgs or call me, but i have explained that there are going to be things they do in their lives that as much i love them, i don’t want to see pictures of! otherwise, i will feel the need to put on my grown up hat & scold them accordinglyLaughing

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Being an elementary school teacher, it’s not as common until the higher grades.  I would say if you were comfortable with adding them, then I would create a seperate profile for them  A lot of my friends are teachers and to prevent students from finding them, they have changed their fb names, many of them have their first and middle names or their maiden names. It makes them a lot harder to find πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My mom is friends with her former students and some partents of students/former students and I think she’s absolutely nuts. She puts things on there that I wouldn’t want anyone in my professional life to read about.

 

I can see making a separate one but I wouldn’t do it because of what you said- then you know too much about them, which is also a boundary and I think can make you liable for their actions. I will never, ever friend a student, former student, or parent of a student. I just think its inappropriate.

 

ETA:the reason I wouldn’t want to be friends with former students is that a lot of times they have younger siblings, friends with younger siblings, cousins, neighbors, kids they babysit who they could show your page to. So I say, just avoid ALL of it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsE.ToBe : “Michelle Obama and I would disagree”

 

hahahahahaha, this made me laugh my pants off

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not quite a schoolteacher, but I do work somewhere where high schoolers see me and think they “know me.”

I just have a personal policy to not accept any friend requests of people in high school or younger (except my cousins.) No one has ever asked or anything, but if the kids ever do talk about it, then none of them can say I’m their friend.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I teach college, and I don’t accept the friend requests until after I submit their grades. If I taught high school, I’d wait until after graduation. Seems pretty straightforward to me!

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