Post # 16
I’m not a teacher but one of my best friends is. She was also trying to get April babies to have leave right before summer break. Her first pregnancy, she got pregnant the first cycle trying, and had an April baby, the second one took her 2 cycles, and they had a May baby. She just started trying this month for baby #3, hoping for another April baby. Fyi – she had her first baby at 27, 2nd at 30, and is 32 trying for the 3rd.
Post # 17
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
peachacid: We have a good amount saved, as I’ve been working for 9 years at this point. I have great health insurance but if I miss 60 days of work, I lose it. Bullshit, I know.
And on all the ovulation calenders, conceiving in early August 7-12 when I ovulate results in a May 4 Due date. That would be ideal but I have super duper short luteal phases and I don’t know how I’ll get pregnant.
arielmerms: ha learn from me girl, it might take longer than you think!
phoebephoebo: our maternity leave system is horrific. Don’t even get me started. I don’t know how American society functions (does it…?) the way we treat our new mommies and babies.
Post # 18
lealorali: oh I know, that’s just my ideal timing!
Post # 19
lealorali: At least you get some paid leave. We get FMLA and that’s it. I’m just going to work my tail off until it’s time (whenever that may be) and cross my fingers.
Post # 20
I so admire American mums. I just can’t understand how you cope with the lack of maternity leave.
I’m not a teacher but work within the school system so I have the same work schedule. Here we get 6 months off on 80% pay that we can then stretch to 12 months with less pay.
I had to take sick leave from August-October, when I had my baby. I then took 8 months off until June and will then have the summer off, starting work in August when Dear Daughter is 10 months.
Post # 21
lealorali: I teach and I’m due in January. It wasn’t the ideal time, but it’s all worth it. I would just focus on taking the pressure off of having a time frame to get pregnant. Everything will work out it :).
Post # 22
I teach and like others have said I would have ideally would have liked to have a baby in April/May. With my first I was due at the end of November and it actually worked out very well because of Thanksgiving break, Christmas break, and February break. I took 12 weeks with FMLA and because I had enough sick time saved up I was paid for virtually all of that. This time I’m due in the beginning of March, which isn’t ideal because if I take 12 weeks off again (which I’d need to take all unpaid now because I don’t have sick time saved up) I’d have to come back to school for the last 3 weeks or so depending on snow days. I’d love to be able to just go on maternity leave for the remainder of the year, but alas. As much as I would have liked to pick a “better” time, I try to remind myself that the baby is what I really wanted in the first place and even if I had what seemed like the perfect due date babies don’t always cooperate, so you have to sort of just go with what you’ve got 🙂
Post # 23
Right now, I’m 6 weeks which gives me a late March due date. I knew I would like to “try” to have a baby at the end of the year to give me more time home. But the Darling Husband and I agreed we would work at it till it happened.
I got pregnant too quickly to sign up for the disability insurance and don’t get any paid leave. So after my sick time runs out, I have to go back.
As far as bills are concerned, we’re saving as much as possible now. Plus, the Darling Husband gets paid leave and he’s up for taking some time off for me to go back to work. This way for the first 6-8 months someone will be with the baby all the time without any need for outside care.
I’d say go for it. Don’t worry about school and the year. This is your life – YOU get to make of it what you will by being positive and thinking about your future with your family.
Best of luck! I know how hard it is!
Post # 24
I’m due in early December and was hoping to take off until mid-April. I was just informed a couple weeks ago that my district only gives us the option of taking the FMLA-approved 12 weeks off, or take off the rest of the school year unpaid. Well, no paycheck from Dec-Sept would not be feasible for us so I am now having to go back in mid-March and will only be paid for accumulated sick leave (about 27 days). I was pretty emotional about it for a couple days and it’s not ideal, but it will work out.
Originally, I wanted to have a baby in March and take off the rest of the year (a lot of teachers do this) but I didn’t want to wait to TTC and then have complications so we started trying in January and it happened in my second cycle! It was sooner than we thought, but life happens and we’re ready for a baby.
I think you should just do what feels right for you and your partner and try to not worry about the teaching part. I’ve learned that you can try to plan as much as possible, but some things just really aren’t in our control.