Post # 1
My fiance really wants a fall or spring wedding. I am too nervous about my first year teaching (2013-2014 year, I’m doing my internship starting in this August) to ask for any extra days for the honeymoon. I figure that we could possibly get married and take a local mini-moon over fall break (only 4 days in October of 2013). Then, over spring break (9 days in March or 2014) we could take a longer vacation. I kind of like this idea, but I dont know if we could afford the 2 trips. We really want to go to the beach, but its farther away than a minimoon would allow, hence the extra trip.
There is also the option of Summer break, which I think would be best, but Fiance doesn’t seem to keen on the idea because we are planning an outdoor wedding and its suuuuper hot here in summer. Also, we’d have to either do it in exactly 1 year or wait a full 2 years (not ideal for us).
Doing it next summer doesn’t sound bad, but Fiance is wanting to look for a new job (he’s working where he is until he gets another offer). So, I’m nervous about planning it that close in case he cant get the time off for honeymoon. SO:
Teachers, how did you decide on a date? did you delay your honeymoon? Just needing a little advice!
Post # 3
We’re doing indoor, late summer, and then a quick honeymoon before I have to get back to grad school (I don’t always teach, but I’m still at the mercy of school scheduling). We had visions of trekking through Europe for 2 weeks, which I was really sad to put away? Now I think we’re spending a week at a beach, which will still be amazing, but doesn’t quite tug at my heart the same way. The things we do for jobs!
Post # 4
We picked July because we are both teachers, but we had to sacrifice having an outdoor ceremony and reception because it will be too hot. We’ll get back from our honeymoon with a few days to spare before school starts again! As teachers, it is nice that we don’t have to take any days off of work to get married!
Post # 5
We chose the end of June because this would give me enough time off after the school year ended to do those last minute plans. Our ceremony and reception is indoors. We will also get to take our honeymoon right away. I would be leery of asking for a few days to take a honeymoon. Your district may have a policy where you would be docked pay for a few days. Plus, with the way education is going right now, you don’t want to put a target on yourself.
I am so glad that I have this time off before we get married. I was really stressed at the end of the school year. I was finishing my Master’s degree, Fiance finished his, I had a difficult class this past year, and Fiance was also moving back to our hometown. There was a lot on my plate. Most of this stuff (FI moves back in a few days) is now off my plate, so I’m able to solely focus on planning. It was the best decision that we made, in regards to planning.
Post # 6
the choice was easy for us… I wanted to have time off and not have to ask for it.. Fiance has a bit of vacation time in August.. so we decided on an August wedding. Yes, it’s a scorching hot time of year.. but that didn’t change my mind one bit! August 4th will give us time for a weekend honeymoon… then Fiance will go back to work and I will still have a good three weeks of relaxation , and to enjoy being a newlywed. Also, I liked the idea of having the time in July to do last minute wedding stuff without the added stress of a job. The choice is definitely personal though.. if the idea of a hot day for a wedding doesn’t suit you.. then it sounds like you’ve made your choice 😉
Post # 7
You have to do it summer or xmas break – it’s more critical for you to have it during these off times than to plan around your FI’s maybe new job. Just make sure he makes it clear that he will be taking off 1 week at x time if he goes for a job interview.
Post # 8
@keepsmiling19: Right, that’s why the fall wedding would be over fall break, etc. I found an indoor venue that I love, but Fiance doesn’t seem to keen on it. There is another indoor venue that I found, that Fiance likes but we aren’t sure if it has A/C (It’s at a state park). I think I would be less stressed if it was done over the summer, and I think I’m gonna try to talk him into doing it over next summer or the one after that…. I hate the waiting part but It seems like the most sensible option.
Post # 9
@MissPatience: I completely understand! I would have loved a fall wedding…October is beautiful! You could also try to schedule it close to the end of the school year (for us, we end near the end of May). It may not be too hot, then. If you live in an area where you get snow days, that could be a problem. In 2011, our school district had 7 snow days. This past year, we had 0.
Plus, I don’t know your situation…since I had so many variables going on, it made sense to have it later. Your situation might be a little more stable than mine as to where this could work out a little better for you.
I also can understand about the waiting. We will be having a nearly 2 year engagement. In some ways, it was a bummer waiting, but in some ways, it was really great. We got first choice at the majority of our venues, we were able to lock in 2010 pricing for 2012, and I had more time to research ideas. There are benefits to both. I also don’t know what your financial situation would be like, but it would also give you more time to save.
I also want to wish you good luck with your internship! I don’t know how your internship works, but ours was finished in early May. Could that possibly work? I know I suggested something similar earlier in the post.
Post # 10
My Fiance is a teacher…and also high school coach for sport seasons year round. It made it slightly challenging but we both loved the idea of a Fall wedding.
We’re doing Nov. 3rd (Saturday), so he’ll just his 1 personal day for the year the Friday before. I’ll take more time off and handle more of the set up, details, etc. This is his week off from coaching between seasons too!
Then, we’re looking at a honeymoon during his winter break, right after Christmas. It looks like it’ll be Dec. 26th/27th – Jan. 1st (return date). Not the most ideal w/hoildays being so busy, but we also wanted to go somewhere warm during the cold months in our area. We also wanted to wait a little bit after the wedding and I love the idea of spending our first new years married together during our honeymoon.
Post # 11
@keepsmiling19: Like you, we have snow days that are added on to the end of the school year. The schools around here are done in mid-late may, but university classes end in the beginning of May. IDK how late into the year that I will have to stay. School here also starts the first week of August, so that basically leaves all of June through mid-late July (Right when everything is most expensive travel-wise…boo..) for the summer.
We are pretty stable now, but are preparing for some instability. When I start my internship I may have to stop working my job, and Fiance is considerig full time work or law school. So, some changes are coming, and that makes me nervous. We may very well have a 2 year engagement, unless he finds a good full time job soon.
Post # 12
We chose the weekend before Thanksgiving because my school district gives us the whole week off for Thanksgiving. So I’m going to take a few days off the week before Thanksgiving to prepare, get married on the Saturday before the break, and then we have the whole week to go on a honeymoon (if we can afford it). My Fiance is a cop, but he has plenty of leave time, so he can take off pretty much as much as he wants as long as they can spare him, and they’re pretty good at approving leave for things like weddings.
ETA: I didn’t want summer either because it’s so hot (in Florida) and also because things are more expensive in the summer because it’s wedding and tourist season. Also, spring break was out because spring is a crazy time at work for me.
Post # 13
I got married on April 7. Since that was Easter weekend, I already had school off Friday the 6th and Monday the 9th. I took Thursday before the wedding off to prep for the wedding. I also took the Tues. through Fri. off after the wedding to go on our honeymoon to Mexico. In the school district I work for, we get 11 personal days to use however we want. So you bet I used some of those days off for my wedding and didn’t have any regret in doing so! This was also my first year of teaching.
Post # 14
I just re-read my post, and I need to clarify. Fall break lasts 4 days, I would not be asking off for 4 days. We would have a 3 day minimoon and go back to work. And spring break lasts 9 days, but we’d likely only use 5 for our trip. Does that make more sense? I do not want to ask off if at all possible. Or we’d just wait til spring or summer if it came down to it. It’s always easier to pushthe date back (especially when you haven’t paid for anything!!).
Post # 15
We’re doing a summer wedding (heat not a problem here!). Having more time off just allows us to focus on the wedding and have time after to come back down to earth before going back to work. We considered a spring wedding with a summer honeymoon but I couldn’t face going back to work so soon after.
Post # 16
I am getting married next June, a few weeks after my school gets out but only a few days after my mom’s school gets out. We were originally thinking of October but it would have been too rushed. I think your options are summer, summer, spring break, or winter break. Have fun!
Also, what are you going to be teaching? The first few years are the toughest, so hang in there!