Post # 1
I’m trying to decide if I should keep my maiden name and finish the school year or if I should go ahead and use my married name?I’ll only have 3 months left of the school year after getting married.
Back story- My fiance and I are getting married over Spring Break because it was the most convienent for us and cheaper. My last name is a whopping 4 letters while my new last name will be 10. My kids are already having trouble with the idea that I’m getting married (attachment issues, I think?)
So those of you who got married in the middle of the school year, did you change your name mid-way through or leave it until the end of the school year?
Post # 3
@Cmcrca110713: I’m getting married in July so I will just come back next year with my new name- but I think you could do either!
I would probably just keep my maiden name because I work with special ed kids and they can barely remember my name as it is! LOL. You could also tell your kids your new name, and if they remember, great, but if not – no biggie! It may take you a while to legally get it changed also, so I would change all that w/HR officially over the summer.
Yay, teacher bees 🙂
Post # 4
I would change it when you get married, so if your students see you in the hall next year, they know what to call you without confusing your new students!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@Cmcrca110713: I got married during the summer so this really doesn’t apply to me, but my friend got married during Christmas break and her students thought that it was hilarious that they would call her a different name when we got back in school.
Post # 6
I’m changing my name, but I teach high school. When my students ask, I tell them they can call me either name. They will eventually call be by the new name once everyone else is doing it. (There are a few adamant that they want to call me Ms. MaidenName)
Post # 7
Not a teacher, but I remember my kindergarden teacher changing her name. I don’t think she handled it well (she scolded kids when they got it wrong) I would think waiting isn’t the worst thing with younger kids, as changing things on them that late is just going to confuse. If they are older (4th and up) then I would change it just to have it done with.
Post # 8
Officially, I would change it ASAP. In the classroom I would inform them of the change, but honestly, which name they remember isn’t a big deal to me. In the classroom, I would probably wait to have them formally use my new name.
Post # 9
I’m getting married in 2 weeks and will change it after. I will start going by my new name, but am not going to freak out if it takes them a while to call me by that name or if they don’t for the second half of the year. I’m thinking it will be hard enough for me to remember to respond to my new name as I hear my name said so many times a day. Do whatever works for you!
Post # 10
I didn’t change mine. That solved that problem!
For people I know who did, they just kindly reminded the kids that they were “Mrs So n So” now and not “Miss Whatever” anymore.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
@Cmcrca110713: It depends on the age of the kids. For kindergarten I’d definitely wait, for elementary they might understand although I doubt they’d use it, so slso might be worth waiting.
Post # 12
I was just married last month and I changed my name. I teach 6th grade and my students were excited to be able to choose if they want to call me my new name or maiden name lol Just let them call you either one.
Post # 13
I’m getting married March 14th and I am waiting.
I figure I’ll start a new year fresh with a new name. It seems silly to change it in the middle of the year!
Post # 14
Getting married in Augest, my kids seem excited as they keep asking me what my new name will be, and wedding related questions. I tell them what my last name will be and say that I woulf prob also answer to my maiden name as well.
Post # 15
I got married in July. I didn’t change my name until October, so my students were calling me my maiden name for the most part. Some called me by my married name. I moved up a grade and have them again, and some still call me by my maiden name. Outside my door my name is hyphenated..why I don’t know.
So regardless of when you do it, you’ll still hear your maiden name a lot.
Post # 16
Apologies, I haven’t read the responses (so I’m sure I’ve repeated some opinions)…
I’m getting married in April and I am done teaching during the first week of June. I will be legally changing my name in April, but won’t go by my new name until the following full school year. The fact that I will be working at a different school/with a different groups of kids next year has also influenced my decision, though.
ETA: I also work with 4th graders, so I think the name change may be a little bit confusing; however, maybe it would be easier with older students? (I don’t know… I’ve never taught higher than 6th!)