(Closed) Teacher Marrying in September? Yay or Nay?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am not a teacher, but work in a University (frontline services, with August and September being the absolute busiest months, usually seeing hundreds of students per day).

We had thought a summer wedding would be best, but a couple of the guests we really wanted there, couldn’t come in July or August. So we got married on September 28th.

My employer was great – very understanding – though there were moments I almost went crazy trying to plan when I was exhausted. My only advice would be to get anything and everything done you possible can, before the busy season hits. And then, it is just a weekend (or week) away, rather than weeks of late nights.

Post # 20
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@hazeljayne:  My husband is a middle school teacher and we got married in mid-September (and a destination wedding to boot!). He spoke to his principal as soon as we decided and luckily she was so supportive, then he talked to the district office HR folks. They gave him 3 days paid, 2 days unpaid, which we were fine with, we just wanted the time.

September is the prettiest time of year here so we’re absolutely thrilled to have our anniversary in the fall.

So YES, it’s absolutely possible, as long as you’re supportive with his work, which I’m sure you will be!

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Fluffmallow:  The biggest difference is that when a teacher isn’t at school, the hundreds of students he teaches are still there…not getting taught.  It’s not like he leaves a report and turns it in later.  

OP, I think since the timing is near Yom Kippur AND he gets time off for that holiday, you’ll be fine.  He should take the Monday off so you can wallow for a few days, but that’s it.  The kids will be so excited for him!

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@peachacid:  The difference is that when you work year round, there’s not usually one time of the year that’s super stressful. Being a teacher, you stop and start back in August so it’s a particularly tricky time with new students, new curriculum and new ways you’re doing things which often takes a lot of work. Another example would be someone who does tax preperation getting married at the beginning of April =)

That being said, I agree with @fluffmallow that it shouldn’t matter – because it’s your special day and no job or anything else should get in the way of that.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m a teacher too and would never consider getting married during the school year.  Too stressful!  We went with a summer wedding- and while yes it will probably be hot as blazes, we made sure that we picked indoor venues all with AC.  

Also, if you had a summer wedding, that would mean he would always be off for anniversaries, making anniversary vacations easy to plan!

I think because it is his teaching schedule it would conflict, than it is up for him to decide if it is doable for him

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@hazeljayne:  EEK! I am a teacher and I would never want to get married in September…but, then again, I am the woman.  I would definitely reccomend getting married in the summer! But I understand your desire to get married in the fall..Good luck!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 I am an SLP in the schools and got married in early october! I thought it would be easier in the beginning of the year when things are still kind of up in the air anyway. I took a total of 6 days off including a 3-day minimoon to Disney. We are gonna go on a longer trip this summer!

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am a teacher and I am looking at a November wedding. Spetmeber would not have worked for us because of other reasons, but I would have loved to pick September! It’s perfect he will have days off to prepare. As long as you and him are super prepared and don’t procrastinate on things, I think it would be fine. Yes, it’s a stressful time, but with some time management, he’ll be fine 🙂

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If he was the girl, NO WAY. September is NOT just seasting charts…. it’s also workshops, open houses, and parent meetings. 

Not to be rude, but you also mentioned he’s been laid off and rehired and different schools. What if that happens again? Even if it’s not his first year overall, if he was to get placed elsewhere for next school year, then there might be other new teacher-related things that he HAS to do. He might not even have off for the Jewish Holidays in another school. Then he’s a new teacher taking off the 3rd week of school? 

If HE’s ok with it, I guess you’re good, but I’m in year 9 and I’m still playing catch up on all the work that comes with getting the school year going!

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m a teacher getting married in April (so, while although not in the very beginning of the school year, it does fall very near the end). I say go for it! You have sick days/personal days/substitutes for a reason!

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m a high school English teacher too, and I refuse to get married in the summer during the most miserable time of the year in the South. I probably wouldn’t get married the first few weeks personally because that’s always the busiest time. I plan on getting married either in October around a fall break or the Thanksgiving break. Good luck with whatever you decide. 

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