(Closed) Teacher Marrying in September? Yay or Nay?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
3479 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@hazeljayne:  I’m a HS teacher and I admittedly would be super super stressed and peeved if my sibling was getting married in September. But having the 2 days off beforehand is not so bad.


One horrible caveat: most unions here in the NE will dock you pay if you miss a day of work before or after a holiday. Even one day. Happened to me around MLK day (WTF) and it cost me HUNDREDS of dollars.

Post # 33
8 posts
  • Wedding: July 2015

I am a principal of a private school and have had two employees get married during the school year. We work with special education students so they had private conversations with me about time they would need off during the school year and I was happy to oblige their request. However, in your situation if he is at a new district he has not made tenure yet and thus can be get docked pay for taking time off after the holiday. Teachers have very demanding jobs and even if he teaches the same grade in the same school he will most likely change his lesson plans to reflect his growth as a professional. I would take everything into consideration and make a decision from there.


Good luck


Post # 34
2191 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Glasgowbound:  I agree with you. I wouldn’t want to get married during the school year either. 

Post # 35
3162 posts
Sugar bee

@hazeljayne:  Hmm, depends on how well you two can manage stress TOGETHER.

My DH is a teacher at the same school I work at (I am an administrator). We got married on August 10, our school year started on July 29. So we got married in the first few weeks of the school year, it was the busiest time of the year for my job, it was Parent Teacher Conferences, it’s his first year of teaching, yada yada ya. 

Honestly, I thought it was fine. So did he. But then again, we did NOT allow wedding planning to stress us out too much. Did I have a few panic moments 2 days before about some things I forgot? Yes. But did I become a bridezilla or let wedding planning consume my entire life during the engagement? Absolutely not. 

We paced ourselves over the course of a 9 month engagement and left very little to do until the end (just the seating chart, finalizing numbers and arranging center pieces). 

I think it could be fine, but it completely depends on the couple and how well stress is handled.

Post # 36
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Oh, this is so disheartening as a teacher who is looking to get married in the fall! I think it’s a possibility. It won’t be easy, but earlier in the school year (week 3, like you suggested) might work, because he will be in the swing of things, but hopefully there won’t be too much grading in that time period when the kids are still getting into their routine.


It’s up to you all. I believe if you are organized and he has those days off, it would be very doable!


Post # 37
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m a special education teacher in PA and am getting married during the school year next year. We’re getting married in December. I thought about doing it during the summer, but have always dreamed of a winter wedding and really didn’t want to do a summer wedding. I say go for it and as long as his sub plans are thorough and accurate one day will be ok! Your wedding and love is important and I’m sure his principal will work with you. We just had a teacher get married in the middle of Sept and it all worked out.

Post # 38
1614 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Make sure he’s actually allowed to take off the Monday after a holiday.  In both of the districts where I’ve taught, that’s a big no-no.

Post # 39
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@hazeljayne:  we are both teachers and got married about 6 weeks into school. It was also my first year teaching.  In my defense, I wasn’t a teacher when we got engaged and set the date. we got married on a Sunday so I had Saturday to finish stuff and we took mon and tues off.  It wasn’t a huge deal, but we also lived together for years so there was no adjustment there.  as for the anniversary thing, it’s not a big deal. We go out to dinner the closest weekend, but I feel like that would be the case no matter our jobs. We’re not big on anniversaries or anything though. 

We did our honeymoon the following summer.

Post # 40
3797 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think whatever works best for both of you is great. This is my second year teaching and I am getting married on New Year’s Eve. While it is over winter break, it still means a lot of planning occurred last school year (we got engaged in November) and a lot will happen over the next 2 months to prep. As long as you are okay delaying a honeymoon then go for it!

Post # 41
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I work at a school and we got married in October. Yes it was very stressful since I did all of the planning, but we really wanted a fall wedding. Getting married during the school year meant I could only take 3 days off work, so I had the Friday before the wedding, and then the Monday and Tuesday after the wedding..then it was back to work for me 😛 We are going to delay the honeymoon until the summer though.

Post # 42
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I’m a teacher! I have to say that I think it depends on how involved in the wedding he is. If you’ll be doing most of the organizing, and he gets a few days off, I think it will be no problem! You say he’s laid back, too, so I think you should go for it.

Post # 43
1811 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@hazeljayne:  I am also a teacher, I teach high school in NYC and we are having our wedding September 26th. We both despise the heat and humidity, and love fall. We specifically picked that date because I’m off the day before and day of, and most of my bridal party is also in the teaching profession. Yes, it’s a totally crazy time of year, but I’m of the mentality that next year, I won’t let anything stress me at that time. All of the little BS that gets me stressed will have to wait…the wedding is more important 🙂 We wouldn’t have a summer wedding if we were paid to…my cousin’s wedding was this summer in literally 97 degree weather with the heat index of 103. It was DISGUSTING. I could never, ever be happy in that weather and I fully plan on enjoying my wedding lol

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