(Closed) Teachers who are friends with students on social media?!

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Post # 16
77 posts
Worker bee

I find that totally inaproppiate, theres nothing a teacher and student have in common so therefore I dont see why you will have them km social media!

Post # 17
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Anyone who teaches K-12 and friends his/her students is setting him/herself up for issues down the road, I fear.  I get the sense that in many American communities there are busy-bodies who already feel as though they have some sort of right to police the way K-12 teachers spend their time outside of work (including what they do on social media) and connecting with students would seem to create an invitation to even more invasive monitoring.

I accept any member of my college community who sends a request to me on any of my networks (it’s a different world when you are working with legal adults), but I also understand why some of my colleagues choose not to follow students until they are alums. 

Post # 18
185 posts
Blushing bee

My Fiance has a specific student facebook account that he friends students on. He keeps his life VERY private from his students, but many people manage a professional/(student and coworker) facebook and have a separate one for their private life. I see nothing wrong with that, but I do see a problem with CURRENT students being invited to parties. Not necessarily with graduated students, though.

Post # 19
563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am a high school theater teacher and because of that unique subject I develop close bonds with my students BUT I do not have them as friends on FB until after they have graduated. In my particular field I like to continue contact especially with those who continue on with the arts because their insight and experience might be able to help future students. It can be like a networking tool.  I did invite some former students AND their families to my wedding, but that was because I was close to the whole family. These students had been out of high school for several years and I am still in touch with them and their parents on a regular basis. 

Post # 20
1245 posts
Bumble bee

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Peffy:  Lol! In canada you can finish high school while you’re still 17, turning 18 that year. So if you go right into school and land a job you can be 23 when you walk into your classroom. So I get why students think ‘it’s cool’…. but it’s really not! lol

Post # 21
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not a teacher, however with all the cases popping up about innapropriate relationships happening between teachers/students, I just can’t see how this would be a good idea (especially inviting students to your house, even if there are others around?  This is madness to me!)  It’s possible that any relationship could be looked at by anyone on the outside the wrong way, and there goes your reputation. 

A teacher friend of mine has FB but uses an alias so her students can’t find her and has the highest security settings as well. 

Post # 22
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think high school students and high school teachers shouldn’t be FB friends – while they currently are in each others’ lives as student and teacher. Afterwards, eh, who cares… but before, I think it’s asking for trouble.

I was friends with a lot of professors in college, but I would say that was a lot different. It was a smaller school, we all worked incredibly closely together, we were all ADULTS, and I think it helped the bonding for a lot of students and made our lives easier as far as making sure we were all on the same page. 

Oh — and also — I am friends with former high school teachers on FB, now. But I graduated 10 years ago. FB was a baby made only for college students back then. 

Post # 23
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Fourth Presbyterian Church, Chicago, IL & Cheney Mansion, Oak Park, IL

I’m friends with a number of former students, once they’ve graduated high school. I’ve never actually gotten a request before graduation, but students will ask if they can friend me after graduating (its a pretty common teacher-rule) and I tell them they can. I’m a pretty tame person, so I’m not worried about anything they’d see. I’ve never requested a student, but I don’t see an issue with accepting their friend request. <br /><br />There are a couple of teachers that are friends with current students, and I do raise my eyebrows at that, especially when I see you posting about the awesome night out you’re having with two other coworkers, complete with pictures of your drink. <br /><br />I know people get worried about litigation and reputations, but I do think some of my former students are pretty great people–one of my former students came to my annual Christmas party for several years after graduation and calls me for advice. I also hope people can make a judgment about what is and is not a good idea, and with whom. There are some crazy kids/parents out there and there are also some really good kids who need help from an adult who cares about them.

Post # 24
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

DH has a few students on his Facebook. I am not saying it is right or wrong as I think it depends on what relationship you are looking to have, but DH conducts himself in a professional fashion, even on Facebook, and it is his way of staying in touch with students as they advance into college and pursue careers in music. It’s a great way for them to network back with him about their education, which is what all of them do. Yes, he has personal stuff on his FB, but he doesn’t post anything that he wouldn’t be comofrtable telling kids apart from FB.

Post # 25
10635 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

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christinah24:  There’s tons of things students and teachers can have in common!

Post # 26
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Not everyone posts personal stuff on their Facebooks.

Post # 27
4114 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve been a high school teacher for 13 years. I only friend students on Facebook after they graduated. There is nothing on my Facebook that they can’t see – I don’t want to see what is on THEIR facebook (parties, drinking, etc). That puts me in a bad position, as I’d be obligated to report it. 

I do friend students after they graduate (not all, just the ones I like and only if THEY initiate it). I like to keep up with how they are doing. 


Post # 28
8027 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it’s asking for trouble until the student has graduated. Teachers are there to teach my child- NOT be their “friend”.

Post # 29
11 posts

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Peffy:  LOL… yeah I think it’s weird too!  Teachers deserve respect and should maintain that professional balance within the realm of social media.  Seems like you are wise enough to see it isnt a good idea!

Post # 30
9561 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i acutally asked my friend about this last week, she teaches pre-k.  she doesn’t get friend requests from her students because they are too young, but she does get friend requests from the parents.  she will not accept their requests until their child has graduated from her class.

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