(Closed) Teachers who are friends with students on social media?!

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Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m a professor, and although I’m not friends on facebook with my current students, I teach graduate students and I invite them to my house all the time. My professors did the same to me, and it was awesome – I learned a lot and I made new friends. They would invite us all over for thanksgiving or just for dinner because a lot of us were far from our families. I actually had one of my profs and his wife at my wedding because my husband and I because such good friends with them (and still are). Graduate students are supposed to be treated like collegues, I don’t see any issue with them being friends outside of school. The grad students I teach are also closer to my age than all the other faculty, and I live in a really small town where the university employs a good number of people, so it’s been a struggle to try and make friends outside of the univeristy. Undergrads… I bring them on climbing/hiking trips as a group, but that’s about it. Also, have spent more time with the undergrads at conferences and such.

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Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m a high school teacher.

When I taught theatre I had a teacher fb profile because it was an easy way to spread messages/reminders about rehearsals and such. Now that I teach a non extra curricular subject at a different school, I don’t have any need to have a teacher fb so I don’t.

I do have former students as friends on my real fb, but they have to be graduated and trustworthy. Total, I probably have about 5 or so on my real fb page. My page is also exceptionally tame…nothing I wouldn’t want an employer to see so it’s not really a big deal.

 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I have a teacher friend who is friends with a ton of her old AP English class and would post photos with them to her facebook page when she chaperoned dances and junk. It weirded me out, plus I couldn’t IMAGINE being friends with my TEACHER in high school. They were so old lol! Also, I’m 30, I don’t want to see 17 and 18 year olds on my FB unless they’re family. Of course, now she’s a rep for some skincare thing and all her posts are trying to sell stuff, so maybe I’ll just hide her from my news feed.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

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Peffy:  Jesus christ. That’s so weird. A drinking party with high schoolers? Yikes

I have been teaching high school 9 years and have NEVER had a student even friend me. A close friend/colleague of mine has some connections on FB with people from my district so I even restricted her access! Everything is super private and I also don’t post anything remotely scandalous. You can never be too careful.

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

In high school I was friends with people two years above me. At their graduation parties there were 2 teachers that came and played beer pong and smoked weed with the students!! I thought it was weird as shit!! We also had a teacher have an affair with his student and would buy her alcohol and stuff. Oh and his wife was also a teacher at our school!! Obviously he got fired and divorced but then married another one of his students!! 

My 8th grade teacher pretty much adopted me (both of my parents are dead) and she is still in my life to this day. I have a really close relstionship with some of my teachers (her, 3rd grade and 10th grade) but this is a different sitaution. 

 

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Peffy:  I happen to find it highly inappropriate. When I was in high school social media was definitely around, but I would have never dreamed of befriending a teacher on it. Fiance has a SIL who is a teacher and she has several students on her Facebook and interacts with them as such. I think it is a recipe for a disaster. You have to know when to draw the line between your professional and personal life. I can see adding past students once they leave high school, but definitely not current students. FI’s SIL definitely needs a refresher in what is appropriate in this regard. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Fourth Presbyterian Church, Chicago, IL & Cheney Mansion, Oak Park, IL

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Peffy:  Oh that’s so weird! I was out with a big group of (early 30’s) friends once and this guy kept staring at us. He turned out to be my friend’s former student (she’s at a different school) and she was so mortified. I’ve only ever run into my kids at like Target, which is fine although of course its always the day I haven’t washed my hair and am in yoga pants!

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

I went to an alternative high school, where teachers were referred to by their first names to promote a friendly comfortable environment. Had Facebook been a “thing” when I was in high school, I no doubt would have had some of my teachers as friends.

That said, I find hanging out outside school things inappropriate. I do think there’s a line between friends on Facebook and actual real life friends

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was FB friends with many of my high school teachers because I ran the AV department and needed to talk to teachers out of school hours often. I figured this was a better way instead of having their personal phone numbers because I wouldn’t want my phone falling into the wrong hands or anything. 

But being a FB friend of a teacher while in school for no apparent reason? Strange. I know some teachers use their FB as a method of teaching for kids, like posting assignments online in groups and stuff but never gives the kids access to their personal account. That’s just weird. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think it’s awkward… A lot of my classmates from nursing school added instructors as friends but I just feel like that crosses the line. 

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Peffy:  oh yes, I do agree it would be weird with high schoolers. I mean even most of my undergrads I don’t think I would ask them to really do any of that. For me I talk and hang out with my grad students only really, but thats because that’s what my profs did too and I found it really nice and i made some really good relationships. I know some people (graduated) that meet up with our HS teachers, but I do think it would be kind of inappropriate unless like some people mentioned, they have a teacher FB page.

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m a teacher…  I think it depends on the content thats on the teachers site.  However, I have taught children before and there were a few that wanted to add me.  I felt the children were more curious about my personal life outside of school because the school was pretty strict.  Anyway, the school frowned upon adding students to facebook or any social media.  Even though I kinda wish I would have been able to add some of the kids due to the fact that their parents may have been interested in some private tutoring.

Post # 45
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, just no. In fact where I live, many schools have a specific policy prohibiting it.

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mg1363:  If I understand you correctly, that is a facebook group, instead of friending them? I think that is the appropriate way to do it, if the teacher feels electronic communication would be helpful.

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