Post # 1
Is anyone else team green and wavering? Now that my 20-week ultrasound is approaching, I am suddenly dying to find out if our LO is a boy or girl. The nursery is decorated and clothes are bought, so I know I don’t want to know because of “planning purposes.” My DH has been completely steadfast this whole time about not finding out. I know if I can make it past twenty weeks and not find out, it will be smooth sailing; my doctor doesn’t record gender if the parents don’t want to know. I guess I just want to picture a son or daughter in my mind. I am still in love with the idea of finding out a birth. If it is a girl, I am naming her after my grandmother (who is not doing well and might not make it until September–my due date). I know she only cares that our baby is healthy and happy, and I feel like I want to know the gender so I can tell her—a selfish reason.
Post # 3
I wavered around 20 weeks also, but I’m now 33 weeks and hanging on til the end! DH convinced me to hold strong and I’m truly really excited for delivery day now so I can find out what kind of little munchkin I’ve been carrying.
Your reason for wanting to tell your grandmother if you are naming after her though, is a pretty good one. I would definitely be torn too.
We’ve had difficulty narrowing down boy’s names and for that reason I think it would be easier if I knew what we were having, but it’s not enough to sway me to find out.
Either way if you find out now or later it will be a special moment.
Post # 4
Whenever we have kids, I wamt to be team green because I dont want to be smothered in pink if it is a girl. But since you already seem to have that dealt with, I think a surprise at birth is fun, but also having your grandma know would be special too.
Post # 5
Yep, I’m 25 weeks and I waver all the time. DH was intent on the surprise and I wanted to know a little, but let him have it.
I was doing pretty good after the 20 week ultrasound, but then I started making a registry and thinking about how much I dislike yellow… and then we found out that I need ultrasounds every four weeks from now until birth, so it’s like… I have to NOT find out 4 MORE times?!?!
I held out yesterday… but I dunno about the 28, 32 and 36 week ones.
Post # 6
I agree, I had an U/S last week at 32 weeks and the lady was like you know the gender right? And when I told her know she was like OHHH Ok… She was so close to saying he/she it made it hard not to ask her haha.
Post # 7
I’m sure your wavering because you can offically find out! But team green is a great place to be. I’m sure it will make labor much better if you have a reward!
Post # 8
I will be 39wks this weekend and have held out as team green. I have waffled a couple of times but have held on. We are so close now and I am so thrilled we waited.
Not knowing is adding so much to the anticipation and excitement of it all.
Even though you have your nursery put together and some clothes, once you know you’ll still go bananas buying gender specific things. If your family finds out, expect their gifts to also be gender specific.
Go into that 20wk ultrasound knowing that a healthy baby is what matters…then you’ll feel great when you leave 🙂
Post # 9
Our 20 wk u/s is a week from now. I’ve started wavering a little bit. I’m the one who is set on not finding out, DH doesn’t matter either way. When I make it past the u/s, I’ll be fine, but having the opportunity here to find out, it’s testing me!
Post # 10
Thanks, ladies. I knew you would talk me down! We aren’t sharing names, so my DH thought we could compromise and that I could tell my grandmother that our daughter will be named after her. It would be our secret. 🙂 I agree with all of you–it is just curiosity killing me because we could know IN TWO WEEKS. But, you have reaffirmed all my reasons for not wanting to find out. In all seriousness, I cannot stop thinking about that moment at birth when DH announces to me that we have a son or a daughter. After this 20 week scan, no more sonos until 36 weeks. At that point, I don’t feel like it will be tempting because it will be so close. We are going to make sure the tech doesn’t record the sex in the paperwork unless she has to do so.