Post # 17
My husband is a total momma’s boy and very close with his mom. In fact, we live 5 minutes away from her and he refuses to move because of it.lol
However, I totally get what you’re saying. My husband has two boys from a previous relationship, and I would be lying if I said I wanted another boy. They are so much work and their mom is crazy and her craziness has damaged the boys. I’m terrified my boy would turn out the same and although I love them so much, they are such a handful.
I have wanted a girl all my life and know that when I find out I’m having a boy, I will probably cry a little. Which is why I’m finding out before it’s born so I can have the time to bond with the idea of a boy. If that happens. I feel absolutely terrible admitting any of that, but that’s exactly how I feel about it.
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way as well, because I know it’s hard, but you’re not alone.
Post # 18
My husband is the only boy out of four children in his family and he’s the one out of all of them who’s closest with their mum. He takes her to church and out for lunch afterwards, just the two of them, every single Sunday. Boys love their mamas!
Having said that, if you really feel like you would have trouble bonding with a baby boy, talk to your husband. Just because you set out to be Team Green doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind if you think doing so would be in yours and the baby’s best interest 🙂
Post # 19
I ended up bringing it up to Darling Husband in casual conversation just to let him know how I was feeling, not that I was saying I was decided we need to find out. He was supportive in the conversation. I’m just going to see how I feel. I already have an ultrasound booked for the end of the month for my anatomy scan, so I have some time to think about it before then. Even at that, I could always get an elective at a later date if I don’t decide until after that scan.
Again, can’t thank you all enough for the support.
Post # 20
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@MrsSawyer: The ultrasound tech will likely check for gender either way. She’ll (or he’ll) just have you look away and she will stop the DVD recording. If you think you might want to know later, you can always ask the tech to go ahead and record the gender in your chart but not to tell you so that at any time you can ask your OB. If you don’t want your OB to know either (as was our case), then obviously you can’t do this.
Post # 21
@MrsSawyer: or have the tech write it on a piece of paper for you 🙂 that way you can look if you need to at a later date.
Post # 22
I 100% understand because I feel the same way. We are team green because my Darling Husband loves the idea of being surprised. Me, not so much. I’ve always wanted a girl – perhaps beacuse I lost my mother and I dream of having that mother/daughter relationship again, with my own daughter! A boy scares me, because I have no idea how I will bond. And waiting to find out till the ‘end’ scares me also , if its a boy I’ll have to somehow forget about the idea of raising a daughter and think of boy stuff. *Sigh*… we can do it! I’ll be the queen of the house haha.