(Closed) Team Green v Finding out the Gender

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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Helper bee

i always thought that we would wait to find out the gender of our little babe.  before our anatomy ultrasound, i bought (what i thought) was gender neutral clothing, but now that we know we’re having a girl, i’ve realized that it’s all pretty boy-ish haha.

we decided to find out and it has made SUCH a difference in my pregnancy.  Fiance is even more into it now that we know our little girl’s name and we can plan specifically for her! 

our nursery is light grey with white furniture and some pink accents.  definitely feminine, but not over the top!  we will def find out the gender of any future babes for sure ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 47
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Helper bee

Okay I’m sorry if this seems like nit picking on langugage but I teach Social Sciences at the high school level and I can’t help but bring it up.

Gender and sex are two different things, gender is a social construction of an identity and sex is the sexual characteristics one is born with.

To put it simply… I tell my students that sex is between the legs and gender is between the ears!!!

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

phillybride61513:  Ohh the anticipation would KILL me! If you think you can hang in there I say go for it. Darling Husband and I have a son and if the next one if a girl (or whenever we have a girl) we will keep the rest of our pregnancy genders a surprise. This way we will be perpared with hand-me-downs for both genders.

Post # 49
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Helper bee

twodresswedding: 

i say gender, cause my doc does.

from mirriam-webster:

Post # 50
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Helper bee

I think sometimes the dictionary can be a little behind the times… and any physician who uses the terms gender and sex interchangably has likely never encountered a trans person or someone who is gender non-conforming.

If you google “world health organization and gender vs. sex” there is a really great article on it. 

As an educator and member of the queer community I can assure you gender and sex do not equate to the same thing for a lot of people.

Post # 51
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Helper bee

Anyway, I didn’t mean to threadjack the convo. Myself personally I think I’ll wait to find out but the suspense will be awfulllllllllll… in the best sort of way of course!!!

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

phillybride61513:  

My husband did not want to know the sex, and I did. We decided that I would find out and not tell him. About a month later he changed his mind. He said he wanted to know because it would help him feel more bonded with being able to imagine himself with a son or a daughter. He said he was already jealous that I felt more connected to the baby because it is in my belly, and he could only picture the open vague idea of having a baby. He is glad he foundout and talks about how excited he is to meet his daughter all the time.

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

phillybride61513:  We didn’t find out when I was pregnant with my daughter, and don’t plan on finding out with baby #2 either. Finding out in the delivery room was a truly magical moment!

 

Additionally, I wanted to have gender neutral big ticket items so that they could be used for multiple babies. I remember a couple of my friends mentioned they didn’t get a lot of the items they needed at their showers because everyone bought them cute outifts. Which were appreciated of course, but then you’re left with a giant list of things you still need to purchase before baby comes. At least that’s how I see it ๐Ÿ™‚ And it was true for us. We got very few outfits at our shower, and instead got so many of the practical, bigger ticket items. Then once we had our daughter, all the grandparents bombarded us with tutus and sparkles ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Now we will use the same gender neutral nursery for baby #2 and our daughter will get a big girl room.

 

 

Post # 56
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

phillybride61513:  We just decided the same thing! I think it really is the best of both worlds. 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I wanted to know with our first and so did DH; we were thrilled to find out we were having a girl. I am glad we found out and felt I was really able to bond with her. We will be finding out with our second as soon as we can! 

Post # 59
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My whole life I’ve always said I’d find out. I am actually one who really likes girl things and such, so I could never imagine NOT finding out to plan nurseries and clothing accordingly. I actually thought my friend was nuts last year being “team green”. Now that we’re getting ready to TTC I’ve been seriously considering it. I feel like that moment in the delivery room where you find out would be so awesome and emotional. I most likely would do a grey nursery anyway, and then accent with colors based on the sex so it would mostly be a matter of just accessorizing it.

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I told my husband last night about “team green” and he laughed so hard because he never heard the term before.  He thought it was cute though!  We aren’t sure if we want to find out yet, but I am leaning towards knowing ๐Ÿ™‚

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