Post # 17
OP- this threat will reassure you in your team green choice. I actually turned from a die hard want-to-knower in to a pretty certain team green just by hearing people’s reasons for not finding out.
I’m kind of a control freak so I thought it would kill me not to find out, but like all the reasons above, mainly the surprise moment (which I’m told matches no other feeling of anticipation on earth), TOTALLY convinced me I had to experience this.
Maybe we’ll find out for 2nd, 3rd child but we will be team green for the first one which I’m so excited to try TTC after our wedding.
Post # 18
I’ve been set on being Team Green for as long as I can remember – and I am a total planner so this is most uncharacteristic for me! I just want that excitement of wondering if it’s a girl or a boy and then having that moment when the baby is born of “It’s a ______!” is something that I am so looking forward to! I know a lot of people say that they get the same excitement when they find out at the 20 week anatomy scan but I don’t think it’s comparable.
All of the other reasons (gender neutral stuff, avoiding the onslaught of pink or blue etc) are secondary for me. My main reason is that there are so few true surprises left in life and this is one of them.
Ah yes, my other reason is that I hate when people refer to their unborn babies by their selected name for the entire second half of pregnancy after finding out the gender. I know a few people who have done this and it drives me crazy so that made me even more determined in my decision to not find out the gender.
Only 14 weeks left to go until we find out if it’s a girl or a boy! 🙂
Post # 19
This may seem very cliche but we only are worried about the health of the baby. I knew right from the get go that I didnt want to know. DH didnt care either way. I also want to have a lot of gender neutral clothes so if we are so blessed to have another child then they can wear those hand me downs. Finally, I figure it is going to give me motivation to push during delivery just to find out what it is.
Post # 20
My answer: I didn’t want to know. It didn’t matter as long as he/she was healthy. I enjoyed the end result of the 15hr labor when my dr said “It’s a little girl!” SO worth it. 🙂
IF there is a number 2, we’ll go green again. It was fun annoying people because, you know, us not finding out ended their worlds.LOL
Post # 21
I’m not team green but here’s one for your ‘why to be team green’ list. A girl in my town was told it was a girl and then at 37 weeks had another ultrasound and they said it was a boy. So, I’d say the small but possible chance of getting the ‘wrong’ information is another good reason to be team green.
Post # 22
Not even close to trying any time soon, but definitely ‘team green’. I have no other reason beyond I just don’t want to know until the day the baby is born, to be honest. That’s just how I’ve always felt. Fiance doesn’t care either way right now, although that may change when the time comes.
Post # 23
This is exactly why I didn’t want to find out. My husband really really really wanted to find out.
I knew how badly he wanted a boy, and I knew if it were a girl, he would be depressed for 20 weeks with no cute baby to console him.
Lucky for him, it’s a boy.
Unlucky for me–I guess I really wanted a girl. I cried for about a week after we found out it’s a boy.
Post # 24
We really really want both so to us it honestly doesnt matter.
Post # 25
I’m no where near having kids but I always DID want to find out, until, my A&P professor in nursing school was preparing for the birth of his second child and he said this when asked why they weren’t finding out the sex of the baby:
“there are few TRUE surprises in life, and this is one of them, we want to keep it that way”
Since he said that I am positive when the time comes I will not want to know 🙂
Post # 26
Thanks for all the great feedback. I’m recommitted to not finding out. My big reason was something I read on another forum: letting DH be the one to announce the sex.
He’s so excited about this baby. I’ve been feeling kicks more often, and every time I do he lays his hands and cheek on my belly in hopes of feeling them too. As soon as I read that I knew I so badly wanted to give this to him.
Post # 27
I just feel like this is the one major surprise that you get to have in life. Why spoil it? There’s no way I would ever considering finding out the sex. I feel like hearing “It’s A….” right after you deliver would be the best reward EVER!
Post # 28
I never wanted to know – but my husband felt differently. I had to convince him – but I think he’s happy that we didn’t find out. Now on round 2 it wasn’t even a discussion. When folks ask if it’s a boy or girl I say “We’ll find out in July!” (edd – July 22)
What I thought: That not knowing might be an exciting distraction during labor… ha – I didn’t think about it an ounce during labor… not even after the delivery. The midwife is the one who said “Well dad – what is it?”
Cool Factor: My hubby being able to announce “It’s a BOY!” (That was part of my birth plan – that hubby would get to make the announcement)
Unexexpectied Bonus: It saved me SO MUCH MONEY! There are unisex clothing options but not a lot – and not a lot that scream BUY ME like the cute little dresses and boy outfits. So during pregnancy I bought 1 onsie and that’s it! Had I know the sex I’m pretty sure my self-control would have lost the battle and our wallets would have been hurting!
I’m 22 weeks now with #2 and like someone else said I WOULD BE HEARTBROKEN if the doc slipped up and told me. I really can’t imagine knowing – it would be WEIRD! 🙂
Post # 29
How did I miss this thread?!
One reason: Because I can’t imagine a better surprise than hearing “It’s a …..” from the doctor. It’ll be hard to resist the temptation, but we’re going to try our hardest. 🙂
Post # 30
We are Team Green because we want to have the surprise of “its a….!”, our main reason though is we are not fans of all blue or all pink and all the baby showers I have ever went to and they knew the gender, it was pink or blue explosion, flowers and sports. NOT our taste at all…we want to get practical things for baby not cutesy things. There are so little surprises in life that this is something we are really looking forward to. I also think it will help get me through labor because there will be that much more anticipation!
Post # 31
I didn’t want to saddle a baby with expectations—like being a girly girl or a manly little boy. Babies are a mystery! Let their sex be a mystery too.