(Closed) Team Green–Why?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have not yet had my own children, and I am not currently expecting, but I will share a story with you that I believe will help you to stay strong in your resolve.

DH has four children from his first marriage (two are adults, and one of those is married, and two are teens), and we are still hoping that we may be blessed with a child of our own. We’ve talked about this issue several times, and, because I am a Type A planner who loves to be prepared, I told him that I definitely would want to find out the gender in advance. That way, we could paint and decorate with the appropriate gender in mind, and people who would give us gifts would know what to purchase. He completely disagreed with me, saying that he has always been surprised and would want to be surprised again. This actually upset me, because I felt like, “OK, you’ve had FOUR children, and you were able to do things YOUR way. I am in my 40s, and I’ve waited my whole life to possibly have a baby, and you won’t LET me find out the sex in advance?!?!” He then told me I could find out but that I would not be allowed to tell him or anyone else or do anything that could in any way result in him finding out the gender. Well, I thought, what good would THAT do me?

Fast forward a few months, and my older stepson and his wife, who had been trying to conceive, found out that they were expecting.  They chose NOT to find out the baby’s sex in advance, and, they decided NOT to tell ANYONE the boy and girl first names they had selected.

When DDIL went into labor, DH and I, along with DDIL’s family and DSS’s mom, all went to the hospitat to await the pending birth. It was a LONG, LONG day that eventually extended into the wee hours of the following morning. DDIL encountered problems with her hip joint that delayed delivery and caused her extreme pain, despite the epidural. A C-Section was ordered, and DSS then asked his mom and mother-in-law, both of whom had been in the LDR suite, to go down to the waiting room to wait with the rest of us. Eventually, because DDIL was in such intense pain even with the epidural, she finally had to undergo general anesthesia. This meant that even DSS was banned from the O.R.

Not being able to be with his wife and witness the birth, DSS decided to come down to the waiting room to wait along with us. We were all tired and, of course, concerned as we awaited word from upstairs,

FINALLY, an OB nurse came downstairs, with DDIL’s camera in her hand, grinning from ear-to-ear. The mere sight of her happy face caused us all to feel an immediate sense of relief. She handed DSS the camera and said, simply, “They’re both fine. And everything you need to know is on there.”

DSS stood, sobbing with relief, tears streaming down his face, hands shaking, as he struggled between wanting to see all of the pictures at once and trying to absorb every detail of each precious picture. We all surrounded him, peering over his shoulder, listening to his sniffles and sobs, as our eyes sought to take in everything we were seeing. DSS slowly advanced the pics on the digital camera until he came to a full body shot of his precious firstborn, and he cried out in a loud, tearful, quivering voice, “IT’S A GIRL!!!!!! ITS A GIRL!!!!!! IT’S (insert her beautiful name here)!!!!!”

I have to tell you, I am “only” his stepmother, but I LOVE that boy like he is my own son, and that incredibly, PRECIOUS moment is forever etched in my heart and mind. I became choked up just retelling this story. That honestly may have been THE. MOST. BEAUTIFUL. MOMENT that I have EVER been privileged to witness — and be a part of — in my entire life! We were ALL crying. We were ALL overjoyed. And we were all in complete awe that we each had a brand new daughter, granddaugher, or niece — and we finally heard her name. It was absolutely INCREDIBLE.

From that moment on, I decided, I’m with DH.  If WE have a baby, I SO am NOT going to find out what we’re having. I’m sold. πŸ™‚

I hope my story helps. Best wishes to you for a safe and smooth delivery!!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Brielle: That story just brought tears to my eyes! You convinced me too!

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have an almost 4 year old.   I was team green and then accidentally saw a report from my 19 week scan when the Dr left my chart out.  It had the word female circled, so I then read the report.

I was so disappointed to have peeked.  At 26 weeks, they thought I had kidney stones.  When they did my u/s they found that my baby wasn’t a girl afterall.  It was my boy, Jack.   I quickly got over it, but it was way harder than I had expected and all the guilt for feeling bad was hard.

It actually was really hard on the head.  I actually cried, even though I had always felt that I was having a boy.  I spent about a month imagining my life with my little girl and my emotions were crazy.  

I didn’t tell anyone we knew it was a boy.  I love all the gender neutral stuff and would have loved to have used all that stuff if I could have had another baby.   I loved the reactions…  It’s a BOY and his name is Jack!   The gender guesses were so much fun too.   I really would do team green and not peek again.   I felt like I peeked before Christmas.  Life doesn’t have many true surprises anymore…

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think this thread is going to help me stay strong in not finding out the gender, we are team green and my team green buddy was Krysti so now I need some help from you guys. I love reading all of your stories πŸ™‚

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@MapleBecky:  love the name Jack, that will be our baby’s name if its a boy πŸ™‚

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@Brielle:  Love the story!!! Thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

No babies for a long time, but whenever we do have them, I don’t want to know. I DESPISE pink. And bows bigger than babies heads and tutus and stuff. So if we were to find out that we were having a girl, I still wouldn’t want pink and bows and frills. And as much as I love Mother-In-Law, she wants granddaughters to dress up in exactly what I don’t like, so if we just don’t know, suddenly that can be avoided. I like more gender neutral stuff anyway, and that way since we want more than one child, it wont be like we have all this newborn stuff for one gender then never use it again if we have the other. And plus, I have known people who have heard one thing on their U/S, have all this super girly or boyish stuff, only to end up with the other. So its just going to be a surprise whenever it comes. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would love to hear some more stories/reasons why I’m having a “second thoughts” kind of a day today πŸ™‚

Post # 40
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Sugar bee

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@Bao:  Don’t give in!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am not pregnant, but my mom always tells me the story about how she didnt know what I was going to be and how they waited for 9 long months to find out what they were going to get! I know that nothing will ever come close to that moment when I finally see my baby and am told if they are a boy or girl. I want that excitement and wonder.

I am pretty organized and a planner…but for this I always say that I would rather not know and just items and clothing in all colors. I dont see why it is too big of a deal, the baby grows out of those initial items very quickly and then you get ones that go with their sex if you wish!  I know that no matter how much pressure is put on me, I wont budge on this because I just cant even imagine that moment when you finally find out if you have a son or daughter.

Don’t cave, OP! If this is what you want, then don’t allow others to pressure you. They can wait and be excited, too.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

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@Brielle:  Wow, what an amazing story!! So your stepson still got to announce that his baby was a girl and announce her name. Amazing!!

I love being Team Green. πŸ™‚

Post # 43
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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@Jenn23:  Yes! It was an incredible moment! (And he is such an AMAZING daddy, too! I absolutely LOVE watching him with her! πŸ™‚

Post # 43
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Busy bee

Aww love this thread, thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We were team green all the way through, and the excitement was amazing! Fi was the first to find out the sex in the room (thanks midwife) and got to announce it to the world in a choked up voice because he had gotten his little girl! I love that we don’t have stereotypical gender specific things, and we want to bring her up in an environment of choice, not impositions. I loved sports and playing in the dirt as a kid, rid my little 4-wheeler and went hunting with my dad, and those are my favorite memories. And if we end up with a second, we have a start up of gender neutral things. Also, after she was born, grand parents made sure to buy her plenty of pink stuff and head bands, so she ain’t missing that either lol!

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

and may I add, witnessing Fi calling his parents with his new daughter in his hands to announce her with tears strolling down his cheeks, never I would give that moment away!

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