Post # 1
I am currently (26 weeks) pregnant with baby# 2, hurray!
With my first pregnancy, we found out what we were having. This time though, we decided to wait until delivery day. I thought I would really struggle, but so far I am really happy we haven’t found out. It’s really exciting!
There have been challenges, like coming up with two names, picking out gender neutral stuff, making two coming-home outfits, the pestering from friends & family… but I am really happy with myself for not giving in and finding out yet!
Where are all the other mama’s who waited to find out the sex? Are you happy you did? What was that moment like when you finally did find out? Tell me about your “Team Green” experience!
Post # 2
Hi! I’m 31 weeks pregnant with our first here, also Team Green. I’m a huge planner so I really surprised myself by not wanting to know. My husband is super fly by the seat of his pants, so he’s surprising me by wanting to know as we get closer, but so far he’s agreed to stick to it. But it’s SO FUN to not know! I’ll be thrilled either way, and look at finding out as my reward for going through labor…sort of like the light at the end of the tunnel (at least in theory).
We are also having trouble with names, but have so much cute gender neutral stuff! I think my biggest struggle has been in bonding…I think it’s made it a harder to bond without knowing if I have a boy / girl in there. I sometimes worry that I’ll be behind the game when I actually meet the baby, but that’s probably a ridiculous fear.
Do you have a feeling one way or another? I’m honestly going to be shocked if the baby is a girl, even though rationally I know it’s just as likely!
Post # 3
urchin: Well….we were technically not finding out the sex but….I’m pretty sure I saw a penis on our 20 week ultrasound. The tech included a pic on our CD that is pretty obvious 🙁 I’m not sad about the penis, just sad about what I saw. A nurse friend has assured me that I am not an ultrasound tech and that it could still totally be a girl, but I’ve basically convinved myself it’s a boy- if it’s a girl we will be shocked!!! Honestly, if it’s a girl I’m a little concerned that the surprise of that will affect our bonding with the baby, just because I almost always picture a baby boy. I’m sure it would be fine, but I just wish the ultrasound tech hadn’t put that damn picture in!
Post # 4
We’re team green, I’ll be 19 weeks tomorrow and we had our anatomy scan yesterday! I’m LOVING not knowing, I love the guessing and the old wives tales. We have a short list of boy and girl names we like, I’m set on a couple for each sex, just depends on the baby when he/she comes out really. Our ultrasound tech put a few pics on our DVD of leg measurements, the bladder and something else, but I didn’t see anything before I realized they were “potty” shots and quickly scrolled through them, she did say she wasn’t including anything that would give it away, but she may have forgotten so I didn’t look :).
I’m having a really easy time with the nursery and gender neutral stuff (I’m not a girlie girl anyway, so pink isn’t my thing, I much prefer blues, greens and yellows) though I have a strong intuition that it’s a boy so I keep trying to make it a bit more masculine than girlie. It’s hard to find a perfect balance.
Post # 5
I loved that we were team green. At the beginning I really wanted to find out the gender, but in the end was super happy that my husband convinced me not to. It was such a fabulous surprise when they told me it was a boy! We will definitely be team green with any subsequent pregnancies.
Post # 6
I am SO happy we waited. When I first found out I was pregnant, I had a very strong feeling it was a girl. It was weird – I just felt like I knew. But, because of how I carried, everyone was convinced it was a boy. After months of hearing that I was sure it must be a boy. To find out my instinct was right and it was a girl was such an amazing moment.
Post # 7
kate02121: Do you have a feeling one way or another? Honestly, this time I don’t. With Dear Daughter, we did find out what we were having, but before we did, I just had a feeling that she was a girl (despite the fact that there had been no girls in DH’s family for 78 years).
This time, I don’t know. Part of me thinks boy, but I don’t know if that’s my wishful thinking taking over..lol
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wandering_gypsy: I’ve also had that problem with decorating the nursery.I keep edging towards more masculine decor (going with a orange and grey and either teal or dark blue theme). I think the hardest part about waiting to find out has been the nursery in all honesty! haha
Post # 8
urchin: we painted the nursery a great medium blue/grey color and I love it, but everyone is like “is this a hint??” lol so everything I pick I’m second guessing. lol I’m not a girlie girl so I don’t really like pinks and purples, I usually go for greens and blues anyway so I’m kind of giving in and if people think blue=boy then so be it, I think blue for girls is cute 🙂
Post # 9
urchin: Hey fellow Septemeber mama 🙂 I was Team Green for the first pregnancy, but found out the sex this time. I really did enjoy not knowing, and being able to select all gender-neutral items so we could use them again either way the second time.
As for names & decorating, we didn’t find it particularly difficult (and I really thought I would have a hard time!) We selected a name or two for each sex, and decorated the nursery with an animal theme- like little forest animals/baby animals/woodland creatures.
Post # 10
urchin: I’m going to be 14 weeks tomorrow and am team green as of right now. To me, so far, the hardest part is people giving me their unsolicited opinions on it!! If anything, it makes me want to stay team green out of spite!!!
Post # 11
MrsJX3: Part of my team green motivation is spite as well! haha!
My inlaws were telling people at 12 weeks that they’re expecting a grandson (they had a hard time believing Dear Daughter was a girl when we found out with her).
My Mother-In-Law thinks we know what we’re having and that we won’t tell anyone….lol
Post # 12
We did not want to know ahead of time. However we were not gender neutral and had no trouble decorating the nursery while the baby slept in our room, and with just a little pre-planning, having stuff picked up afterwards. Our friends and family sent gifts after the babies were born.
Post # 13
We’re team green. It’s been kind of hard but now at the end, I am happy we did it. Our families were definitely pests and anything I ate, said I was hungry for or looked at they interpreted as a “clue”, which got a little annoying but I know they are just excited. The easiest part was surprisingly picking the names! I thought we would be fighting about the names days after the baby gets here, but so far that was easiest. The hardest was not giving in to our own curiousity, picking out nuetral nursery things and registry stuff.
For myself, I’m pretty convinced its a boy. No idea why, but even if I’m wrong, I’ll be just fine either way.
wandering_gypsy: LOL! we went with blue walls and now EVERYONE thinks we know and that its a boy! Apparently blue means boy all the time no matter what.
Post # 14
urchin: Can I ask what made you decide to go team green this time around? I’m not pregnant yet, but I’m curious about a lot of pregnancy related decisions. My SIL said that she thinks there are very few real surprises in this world anymore and that’s why she was team green. I get that but I also feel like the suspense would be hard to take!
Post # 15
I want to find out, but the more I read team green threads, the more I’m swaying. My close friend is a month and a half ahead of me and she’s team green. I just don’t know!! Of course I had a dream last night that it’s a girl, which I know means nothing, but can’t help but stick in my mind!