Post # 1
Are you going crazy yet? We had every intention of finding out because we were excited to know… but as soon as I made the appointment I got kind of upset like I was about to ruin a surprise. We decided last minute to go Team Green and so far people are really excited for us, except all my cousins who found out with their kids and think we’re crazy. Everyone keeps saying “wow I couldn’t do that, how are you so patient?!?!”… but it’s not bothering me yet.
I’d love to hear other people’s Team Green experiences… are you glad you did it or was the curiousity killing you? Is it true that it motivates you during labor?
Post # 3
We’re team green and I LOVE IT! It was hard when all the other spring moms I know were finding out and posting what they were having, but otherwise I’ve been pretty chill about it. I’m glad that I don’t have to worry about a slew of pink or blue at the baby shower and I get to get more of the things I want & need. =)
Most of our friends are on the “I could never do that” team & both my sister & SIL threw a mini fit b/c they didn’t know what to buy now, but otherwise alot of our friends who have multiple kids already think it’s great!
I won’t know if it motivates me in labor till April, but I have heard from o.b. nurses that the feeling in the room is so much different for the team greeners… I guess more anticipation.
Plus seeing this pic from a birthing photographer I follow just made it all even more great…. Dad’s obviously excited about finding out he’s had a boy! lol
Post # 4
I personally couldn’t do it. I wanted to know from the day I found out I was pregnant! I wish I could be as patient as you. There are so many people I know who are doing that lately I just don’t think I could do it. It would be nice to have the suspense and surprise though. I’m glad there are some peopleout there who still like a little mystery in their lives. Good luck on holding out! It might be tough but I’m sure you can do it!
Post # 5
I am 24 weeks now, and I absolutely do not want to know the gender of the baby, in fact, I get so nervous I will get a peak I don’t want during ultrasounds, that I re-iterate about 100 times that I don’t want to know to the tech, and make sure to avert my eyes any time they look at anything having to do with the lower abdomen and legs! I have to go for a repeat scan next week, and I am back to worrying!
I am an NICU nurse, and go to a lot of high-risk deliveries as part of resuscitation team, and there is definitely a different feeling of anticipation in the team green deliveries! It is awesome to be a part of!
I am also really exicted about shopping for my little green baby! It is a touch more challenging, for sure, but I am not a pink of blue person really, so I am really having fun with all my purchases. I have also loved designing my neutral nursery, and can’t wait to see it come together IRL!
I haven’t had any negative comments really, but that might be because me and Darling Husband have always been vocal about wanting to be team green.
Post # 6
I was Team Green and loved it! People hated it, but of well. I planned like crazy! Nursery all together, car seat,etc. I loved the surprise.
I had a csection after her heartrate dropped so no pushing and using that as motivation, but I was extremely tense while waiting during the surgery to see WHO Baby Bear was!
I want to be Team Green for #2 too, IF we decide on a #2. I just liked the antucipation too much. That’s half the fun.
Post # 7
I do love being Team Green, although it is a bit hard right now with the other Junebug mommas starting to find out the gender now. I’ve always wanted that surprise in the delivery room and am really scared now that there’s going to be a slip up at our anatomy scan in a couple of weeks or we’re going to accidentally see something. I have a really strong feeling I’m having a boy but I just don’t want confirmation until the little one actually arrives.
My family is all fine with me not knowing – they actually prefer that (although my brother and his wife, who are due 5 weeks after me, are planning on finding out) so there is definitely no pressure there. Also, in my groups of friends, it’s totally not common for people to find out the gender beforehand, so that’s good.
With my DH’s family on the other hand, they are really disappointed we’re not finding out and keep trying to talk us into finding out. SIL is the type to buy lots of personalised items – clothes, bedding, blankets, bibs, etc, and it’s driving her crazy that she can’t do that for us right now. To be honest, I don’t like the personalised stuff anyway so I really don’t mind this! Mother-In-Law (whom I love!) has also suggested that it is just so much more practical to find out now and it won’t take away from anything as there is so much excitement with the birth of the baby that we won’t miss the surprise that comes with not knowing. I don’t think I buy into that so we just said we’re not finding out, we’re not changing out minds, and we’ll all find out what it is sometime in June!
I agree with my mom who has always said that there are so few true surprises left in life and this is one of the greatest surprises there can be, so why would you ruin it? I also don’t agree with the argument that finding out at the 20 week scan is just as exciting as finding out after many hours of labour and hard work – but obviously I haven’t been on both sides of the coin so I can’t say for certain.
Post # 8
I just thought I would add on here to make sure it is written in your file that you DON’T want to know because a friend of mine didn’t find out from the ultrasound but the tech wrote it in her file and the doctor came in saying, “looks like your little boy is doing well” and ruined it for her. She refuses to go to him for her next child because of it. I thought I would give you all a heads up so you can prevent this from happening to you if you are set on having it a surprise. Good luck to you all!
Post # 9
Aw thanks for all your stories ladies! I think it should be pretty fun too. My biggest reasons are just wanting to keep with tradition and have everyone guessing and also so Darling Husband can feel more involved, since I get to carry the baby this whole time at least he’ll get to announce if it’s a boy or girl at the birth 🙂 So far I kind of feel closer to the baby not knowing because I know I will love him/her no matter what. I worry that I’d get all attached to it being whatever we were told at the ultrasound and have it be wrong and feel disapointed at the birth. I know that hardly ever happens but it’s one of those wonderful irrational pregnancy fears…
@amnystik: Are you having an ultrasound at all? I love that picture!
@Ree723: I think we’re having a boy too, but I don’t wanna announce it because if I’m wrong I feel like people will make fun of me haha. I gotta get on that Junebug thread…
Post # 10
@Moja Milosc: yes, I did. It was more to check my placenta placement than anything though (had a previous c-section so had to check for placenta accreta). My midwife told us if we wanted it documented in my chart then we could but there was no more reason for her to know than us to know so the tech didn’t even check for gender…noone to spoil it for us 🙂
Post # 11
I agree, no spoiling here. 🙂 The tech knew, but the doctor didn’t. They are more concerned with health than boy or girl like most ppl are.lol
Post # 12
This is our second pregnancy being Team Green, and my husband and I both love it! He got a little antsy last time, at the end of my pregnancy, but I just told him he had to hold out because we were too close to ruin the surprise. I don’t think being team green motivated me during labor/delivery (by that point you just want to baby OUT, no matter if you know the sex or not!), but remembering that incredible moment of discovery with my daughter motivated me to keep up spirits during the hard parts of this pregnancy. Every time I’ve struggled with this pregnancy, I think about my daughter’s birth and it keeps me focused on what really matters – a healthy baby!
My advice is to make sure your medical provider writes in your chart that you don’t want to know the sex and also remind everyone who is attending your birth when you go into labor. We had a shift change at the hospital about an hour before I started pushing and forgot to communicate that info to the new nurses. When Dirty Delete was born, everyone was so focused on making sure we were both healthy they forgot to tell us, lol! It ended up not being a big deal, it was still an incredible moment to hear “It’s a girl!” a couple minutes late, but this time we’ll remember to tell the doctor and nurses as soon as I start pushing. 🙂
Post # 13
I was team green. loved the mystery. I had 13 U/S during my pregnancy and managed to get through them all without knowing. Our doctor didn’t know the sex either. I am definitely hearing more and more people go Team Green these days.