Post # 1
Tell me if I’m being ridiculous. I have another half hour at work and wish I could just leave!
First of all, it’s been a trying week emotionally and mentally at work, so that doesn’t help the situation.
I posted something on his wall about the weather tomorrow and that I hope he’s ready (we’re going on an outdoor adventure).
He checks Facebook allllll the time. I mean all the time. I posted this before lunch.
No response. My last two posts on his wall from months ago? Zero response. All the other people that post on his wall? Oh… he responds within 5-10 minutes!
He’s telling me I’m crazy and this is stupid, and he didn’t see it, and Facebook sometimes doesn’t give him notificatios (bullshit). I wouldn’t care at all if this had been the first time.. or second.. or third.. or even fourth. But it’s happened in the past, I never really brought it up because I didn’t think it was a big deal.
He also has some severe issues with public affection, emotion.. anything that his friends might see. I dislike it strongly, but I am dealing with it.
What gives? I am just upset after all that’s happened this week with us and also work. UGH… tgif.
Post # 3
yea……it sounds like you had a hard week *hugs*
Post # 4
I’m sorry you had a rough week, and hope your weekend gets better. The FB thing is not something that I would be upset about, but that’s just me.
Post # 5
Yeah, I second that you just had a hard week. Take a minute and breathe! ((HUGS))
Post # 6
I think you just had a rough week and this is coming out of that. I’m sure it means nothing… just go home and relax and try not to think about your week. Enjoy your weekend adventure and don’t think another minute about the FB thing.
Post # 7
Something else is wrong. I’m gonna be harsh but I’m not buying it. I don’t think you’re upset about lack of response on FB I think you’re upset about the lack of affection and attention from SO.
And I’m sorry you’re having a tough day… but do consider the rest of my post I hope you can take at least 1 thing away from it.
And you said in the last bit you’re “dealing with it” sorry, but apparently you’re not. You’re wiping it under the rug and on days like today the hurt about lack of attention/ affection and PDI explodes out of you. Which brings me to my next point you have a lack of communication with SO you TRY (admirablly) to not care, but you do… you care very deeply. And there’s nothing wrong with that I’m pretty needy too, but I also make no attempt to cover it up and pretend like it’s not really bothering me.
My suggestion is think to yourself if you’re REALLY upset over FB or if you’re hurt becasue of the lack in other areas. I truely believe if he was giving you more attention and loving cute corny little gestures in other areas OFF FB you wouldn’t be nearly as upset over this FB thing.
Further suggestion after you’ve dug real deep is to communicate these feelings. Make it known that you feel loved WHEN and be specific. When you hug me in public, when you text me cute nothings, when you come kiss me in the bathroom brushing my teeth, all those corny gestures you think are conry? Yes, that’s when I feel most loved. And leave the FB deal alone, see if he’s willing to satisfy what you’re really missing. Once you make your concerns known ask him when HE feels most loved. The 2 answers can be entirely different but he has to know what you really appricate and you have to know when he does.
Post # 8
Hon, I just read your previous posts (to better understand “all that’s happened this week”), and it seems you are all over the place when it comes to this relationship. This Facebook issue is only a symptom of bigger issues you’re struggling with.
I don’t mean to be presumptuous, but I encourage you to schedule an appointment with a counselor and talk out your concerns, insecurities and uncertainties about this relationship. It seems to me that you need to seek some clarity on what you really want so you can take deliberate action in the right direction.
Good luck, and keep your chin up.
Post # 9
Sorry about your bad week. If it really just is fb posts, don’t sweat it! If there is more going on we can discuss that if/when you ask for advice on it!
Post # 10
I haven’t read all your posts….but you are not crazy. Be very methodical for one second, right down a list perhaps so you can be sure. What you’re seeing is not brought on by exhaustion or a crazy week if these things are happening over time. What he’s doing is blameshifting so he doesn’t have to respond to your inquiries.
You should be the first person he answers, I don’t care where it is.
Post # 11
I hope your week gets better!! Maybe you’re just extra sensetive from the extra tough week, but I tend to agree with @vmec:. If it was just facebook, I don’t think you’d be so upset– do a little soul searching this weekend and see whats really bothering you. I find that journalling helps me with that. Once you work out what the real issues are, have a chat with SO or figure out what you can do to make it better (depending on the result). Good luck- feel better!
Post # 12
I get what your saying, you want the public display of affection as a recognition of your relationship with him, you want people to know that he cares, loves you, it’s call acknowledgement !!! Been there with the latest ex bf….went thru it at the very beginning of the relationship – he did the exact same thing, plus had things blocked, photo’s etc, but that all changed as the relationship grew….or when I did and realized that he is with me, having fun with me, and that a social networking site was just that, to social with the people he did not see on a daily basis or acquaintances he’d see maybe twice a year…..all in all, you need to realize your with him all the time and your communication is real and in person, not some stuff posted on a page….don’t let something so trivial eat away at you and waste time over something that really means nothing 🙂 hope you have an enjoyable weekend with you man after a rough work week 🙂
Post # 13
After doing much investigating on you it is crystal clear you are NOT READY to get married. You’re not even close to being ready and even if you were ready he is NOT “the one” for you to marry. It’s really obvious, not one single post is about you loving him, it’s all about get me a ring, give me attention, should I cheat, I think we might breakup. Do those posts sound like posts coming from a confident, ready and mature woman to be married? No.