- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
All my tech savvy bees, I need help!
DH and I have had issues in the past regarding 1) the numerous amounts of digital pics/videos of his ex-GFs (some innocent, others XXX) and 2) the fact that he’s made several backups of said pictures/vids on various hard drives, CDs, thumbdrives.
We had some major issues a couple of months ago when I found out some stuff about his past relationships that I just said “enough is enough, you’ve said you’d delete this crap once we were engaged…now we’ve been married over a year!”
Anyways, after our counseling sessions, the counselor pretty much told him to delete all that stuff…he told me it was his #1 priority and he’d have it all gone by the end of the year…he said he keeps finding stuff and if he’s deleting it, I’m not finding it in the recycle bin b/c he’s emptied that.
Also, during his “coming clean” phase, he informed me that there were 2 more copies of all this stuff….one on a DVD he burned when I first asked him to delete this stuff (when we were just dating and he thought I’d erase everything while he was at work) and another on a hard drive at his mom’s house in the U.S…did this before moving overseas and before we’d met.
He’s a computer guy and he’s had HD’s crash on him before which is where the paranoia from making multiple copies comes from. My personal issue (in case anyone is wondering) is that ALL these copies are of his “past” life…he never added the last 4 years of us together on these copies…and our numerous pics/travels. But that’s another story….and we’re in counseling still about these issues.
We started using dropbox a while ago and he had pretty much deleted all the bad pics and actually most of his exes pics before uploading the files…but all the originals are on external HDs.
He’s procrastinating b/c he doesn’t want to have to “sort” through each HD (I don’t blame him, there’s over 5k pics of his exes on each and they aren’t all the same) and delete photos so I suggested that the “final” copy from dropbox be used to “overwrite” the HD. I’ve spent a lot of time creating folders of impt paperwork, pics, etc. and renaming them on dropbox so we could FIND them.
Oh, and it isn’t JUST ex stuff that we’re getting rid of…it’s the documents he has from his first “real” job over 10 years ago, the links to old websites that don’t exist, and budgets from when he moved out at 18, and stuff he doesn’t need anymore…we’re seriously trying to declutter our lives but the digital stuff is ridiculous!
Is this the best way to go about doing this? Wipe the HDs, then overwrite them? Any other suggestions?