- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
Ok – I’ve complained before about having the ‘wrong’ last name making life difficult – if your ‘just the girlfriend’, many places really don’t want to talk to you bout the utilities. This can be for good reason, for instance, if we’d just broken up and I was able to call to disconnect the power to his house on a whim, that’d not only be pretty sh!tty of me, but would also give a non-spouse a LOT of power over her Boyfriend or Best Friend (or vice-versa). So I get it – lines have to be drawn somewhere, and giving couples who’ve merged via marraige instead of simply ‘shacking up’ more respect makes sense.
This does not mean I have to like it. I’ve been very good about not mentioning anyhting wedding at all, unless it pertains to the ones we’ve been invited to attend, and sparingly at that. I’ve given myself a be-quiet-until deadline and am doin okay, but was somewhat glad last night when I had to call the phone/internet company to send a tech out to fix our lines. I always call, partly because I do IT at my job at work, I hook up all our electronics.
I knew everything as fine inside the house, but the way the support system is set up, I had to talk to a machine for 15 minutes before getting an operator. Boyfriend or Best Friend heard the Speak-and-Spell voice that I was talking to, and came to investigate just in time for a real-live person to pick up and start asking account info. He was stnading there when I gave the account numer, his name that it’s under… and he saw me have to got rought the, “No, I’ not Mrs. His-last-name, my name is Isilme Weird-Last-Name, I should be authorized on this account, the payments ceom from my bank account. Yes, I can spell that…. I-S-I-L…”
I’ve told him I go through this every single time I have to call for something that’s under his name (I do better calling and get more done or I’d just tell him to do it), and at least last night he saw it. I could tell he could tell that my stupid name was making me mad, and that I had not been making it up the ring-around-the-rosy I have to do to get taken seriously. Some places, even if I pay the bill, wouldn’t talk to me at all until he finally got them to add me to the list of approved account people.
I now this isn’t much, but I know he knew if my last name was his, I’d have been spared that part of the run around, and I didn’t even have to say anything to him. Here’s to hoping something else breaks around the house.