Post # 62
I was pretty young when we got married (21), and my husband was 25. We chose not to live together or have sex before we were married also. We had graduated from college and I have found that is so much more simple for us to be married now than it would have been earlier. I am in grad school and he has a good job that he loves. We live very frugally (like we did before) but we don’t have to worry about money at all, because we have a real salary to live on. Also on our honeymoon he was old enough to easily rent a car, which I hadn’t really thought of but was still nice ;).
I absolutely would not live with either of your parents if you can help it. One of the great things about being married is establishing your own family, doing things the way the two of you want them to be done, which is more complicated in someone elses house.
My mom and her mom were both married at 19 and have been married from 27 and almost 50 (I can’t remember exactly) respectively. I think it was pretty hard in the beginning for both of them, but they have built good lives together. I think age is less important than a lot of other things (communication, compromise, life skills, education), so it really does depend on the two of you and your goals. Good luck!
Post # 63
My husband and I started dating when we were 14. We knew we were going to marry each other when we were 17. However, we waited until we were 22/23. We wanted to have our life plans more together. I’m glad we waited, I think it makes things easier in the long run.
I just finished my masters degree and my husbad is still in school.
We didn’t live together before we were married and we found it very easy to move in together once we were married. We also didn’t have sex before we were married. However, the adjustment to everything went very smoothly for us!
We have very good communication though, which I think is a solid foundation for any marriage. We had to go to premaritial counselling to be allowed to marry at our church. We had to take this quiz that they compared each of us on and we scored 100% on communication, the paster said we were the first couple that had ever done that. So that probably helped our transition to marriage, anything that came up we were able to talk about quite easily.