Post # 32
It is different for different children. I was never forbidden from dating at all, but my parents trusted me to be responsible. In that regard, they were right to trust me.
My friend was told she could not date until 15. I thought this was quite controlling of her mother at the time…. but in retrospect then her Mum was absolutely correct! There was a girl who really, really could not be trusted around the opposite sex.
Post # 33
I say 13. I teach 7th graders. In a moderated relationship, the kids are happy and responsible. The kids are going to date whether you like it or not. I would be much happier knowingly dropping my child off at the movies for a group date (with a prepaid ticket, of course) and picking them up afterwards, or letting their SO come over to our house or take my child to theirs, and most importantly having an open and honest relationship with my child about dating to avoid rebelliousness and unplanned pregnancies or Save-The-Date Cards.
I’m shocked by how many people said 16! I dated (aka went to the movies with/hung out with/kissed) MANY guys before 15. I started dating my husband at 15. Had I not experienced so many young losers before him I don’t think I could be as content and unquestioning otherwise.
@Tigerlilybride: Your post made me giggle! “I didn’t date before that because I knew what I wanted in a guy and wasn’t interested in dating someone that there wasn’t a possibility of me marrying.” I thought every boyfriend could turn out to be a husband. I’m married to the man I’ve dated since I was 15. I’m going to go out on a limb and say he was the marrying type. lol
Post # 34
@OnceUponATime: Thats really cute 🙂 All the guys I knew when I was 15 were massive jerks, no chance of me marrying any of them!
Post # 35
I’d say 14. I wasn’t allowed to date until I was 16 but of course I didn’t follow that rule…I just snuck around. I want to set positive boundaries with my kids…let them “date” at 14 so I can be involved in their lives and get to know the boyfriend/girlfriend and give them a safe place to hang out.