- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
I don’t even know where to begin. I just really need to vent somewhere, and I hope this board is okay.
My younger (much younger; she’s 15 and I am 30, Darling Husband is 31) sister texted me today, worried that she may be pregnant.
Darling Husband and I are currently TTC, and we know that it’s going to be a difficult road due to endometriosis and PCOS.
I am sitting here in shock right now. I’m devastated. I’m trying to brush it off as nothing, but I know that she has not been taking BC like she should (she missed a couple days last month, and doesn’t always take it at the same time). She comes to me for advice (since talking to my mother about it would be a bad idea)- so I know she’s always honest with me.
I’ve tried explaining that even with BC, her Boyfriend or Best Friend needs to be using a condom as well, and she has to take the pill at the same time every day.
I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to support her. Right now, I’m telling myself she’s not pregnant and to worry about it if and when she finds out she is/isn’t.
But my heart is not cooperating with my brain. I’m almost in tears; Darling Husband and I are really positive that this will be our month- if she’s pregnant too, we’ll have babies at the same time! It will be horrible…. hers will be shameful and my parents will be so completely stressed out that they won’t be able to enjoy ours.
I don’t know if I can even handle her being pregnant right now. I have always been like a mother to her, but a kind/caring one (our mother is wonderful and loves us tremendously, but she’s not someone you can talk to about most things).
I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to tell Darling Husband, because it may end up being nothing, but if she is pregnant and I am not, I will be devastated.
We have been TTC for 3 months now, NTNP for over a year before that, and TTC for another year and a half before that. (We had MC and decided to relax on TTC for a while, hence the period of NTNP before now).
I just need an internet hug, bees. I’m trying very hard to act normally around Darling Husband, but he’s going to realize something is up. :/